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By Alexandra Maria Santos

  • Between Good or Bad: Choose To Be Present Within Yourself!

    31 de Maio de 2020 by

    Think about this: “Whether it’s society’s pressure, our culture, or the drive to try and make everyone happy around us, we all face obstacles to going deeper within our reality. This can leave us feeling unfulfilled, anxious, and depressed, searching for meaning outside ourselves, and trying anything to develop a real connection. Many of us feel… Ler mais

  • Why is this Adele Song So Educational?

    27 de Maio de 2020 by

    “There are some people who refuse to believe that it is their problem that they cannot deeply and consistently love someone who loves them. They convince themselves that if they do not love someone, it is because it is the other person’s fault. They believe that there is a perfect person out there that they will find it easy to love. Each time they become infatuated with someone new, they idealize this person. Then as they inevitably discover the person’s flaws, they become disillusioned, and devalue, and discard them.”

  • The Healing Journey of Slowing Down

    22 de Maio de 2020 by

    “You may think it’s selfish to focus on your needs, but it’s the job your brain evolved to do. If you invest your energy in the needs of the energy vampire instead, your brain will alarm you with cortisol. This doesn’t mean you should follow your short run impulses, since long-term consequences trigger cortisol if you don’t account for them. It means your brain will reward you with a good feeling if you stay focused on your needs, whether others consent or not.”

  • Quitting Social Media

    18 de Maio de 2020 by

    “A digital detox can give time for introspection and renewal. It can be a positive for mental and physical health, and create a new space for alternative health-promoting activities

    Try it and see for yourself.”

  • Dating and Fertility Challenges

    15 de Maio de 2020 by

    “Infertility can have a profound impact on one’s mental health. When men and women find out that they can’t conceive, they may experience the same painful emotions as anyone coping with grief or profound loss. Common reactions include shock, frustration, grief, anger, decreased self-esteem, anxiety, and depression, but feelings about infertility can vary greatly depending on the source of the problems. Men, in particular, find it far easier to deal with a partner’s infertility than with their own.”

  • Why Conventional Dating Tips Leads To Disaster?

    12 de Maio de 2020 by

    Emotional trauma and fear of intimacy is one good cocktail to sabotage intimate relationships when they become real, because when there are unresolved issues. Small behaviors can trigger the old memories you have in your brain and projecting them in the present moment, causing anxiety, and the need to escape.

  • Use Nature as Fuel!

    10 de Maio de 2020 by

    “A growing body of research indicates that spending more time in natural green spaces such as parks, woodlands, mountains, and beaches has healing properties and underscores the importance of nature on your mental and physical health and well-being.

    Previous studies showed that living in greener urban areas is linked to lower incidences of heart disease, obesity, diabetes, asthma, mental distress, and mortality rates. The decades-old Japanese practice of forest bathing or shinrin-yoku (which means “taking in the forest”) is believed to provide stress reduction, relaxation, and deeper insights into life.”

    Bryan E. Robinson Ph.D.

  • Chiquitita: The Resilience Message!

    8 de Maio de 2020 by

    “Resilience is the psychological quality that allows some people to be knocked down by the adversities of life and come back at least as strong as before. Rather than letting difficulties, traumatic events, or failure overcome them and drain their resolve, highly resilient people find a way to change course, emotionally heal, and continue moving toward their goals.”

  • Ouso Escrever and Alexandra

    7 de Maio de 2020 by

    “Self-awareness is an element of the other three components as well. It’s necessary for clarity in evaluating your strengths and (more to the point) your weaknesses: acknowledging when you’ve flubbed a presentation or when your golf game is off, without resorting to denial or blame. Authenticity also turns up in behavior: It requires acting in ways congruent with your own values and needs, even at the risk of criticism or rejection. And it’s necessary for close relationships, because intimacy cannot develop without openness and honesty.”

  • Mentally Strong Women

    5 de Maio de 2020 by

    “A woman’s mental strength can also be hindered by how society believes women should behave—in other words, “gender norms.” For example, think about the way people treat women for expressing their emotions.

    Studies show that male leaders who express anger often gain respect from subordinates. Female leaders, however, are more likely to be labeled “unstable” or “overly emotional” when they show anger. Clearly, there’s a double-standard.

    In addition, people are more likely to view men as leaders. In fact, studies show that when adults are asked to draw a picture of a leader, both men and women are more likely to draw a man.

    So how might these cultural expectations and stereotypes affect women’s mental strength? Well, it can lead to unhealthy habits, like downplaying their success or staying silent. In essence, women are often punished for stepping outside of their perceived gender roles, which can hinder them from breaking molds and succeeding as easily as men do.”

  • You Deserve Safety!

    4 de Maio de 2020 by

    “Narcissists can be charming, charismatic, seductive, exciting, and engaging. They can also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold, competitive, selfish, obnoxious, cruel, and vindictive. You can fall in love with their charming side and be destroyed by their dark side.

    They suffer from profound alienation, emptiness, powerlessness, and lack of meaning. Due to their extreme vulnerability, they crave power and vigilantly must control their environment, people around them, and their feelings. Displays of vulnerable feelings, such as fear, shame, or sadness are intolerable signs of weakness both in themselves and others.”

  • Pansexuality: Human Kingdom Diversity

    28 de Abril de 2020 by

    “The term pansexual was originally used by Sigmund Freud to define sexuality as the basic drive for all human interaction. The current usage of the term began to gain popularity in the late 1990s in an effort to be more inclusive of individuals who did not align with a gender binary, as a misconception that the term bisexual solely indicates an attraction to only two genders did (and still does) exist.”

  • Do You Date Emotionally Unavailable men? Here’s The Best Lesson You Can Take From This Dynamic.

    20 de Abril de 2020 by

    “You cannot heal the abandonment wounds until you allow yourself to fully experience your authentic feeling responses to the suffering of past abandonments and that which continues to play out in your present-day relationships. Acknowledge what you’ve gone through and what you’re currently experiencing in your relationships and other aspects of your life. Notice what you’re feeling in response to these concerns. And then be sure to breathe softly and deeply while centering your awareness within any feelings that arise.”

  • Women and Dating: The Best Advice!

    16 de Abril de 2020 by

    Being around people who don’t know if they like you cause tension and emotional exhaustion. Living in situations of uncertainty generates insecurity and, consequently, emotional instability that will have repercussions on a physical level.
    Chose good people to stay with you!

  • Easter and The Power of “I LOVE YOU”

    12 de Abril de 2020 by

    We are living this period where social distance is a rule, where you can’t be with the ones you love, there is no permission to kiss, to hug, to feel warmth of our loved ones. Let’s forget for a while all this drama around coronavirus and look at is as a refresh and beauty opportunity for all of us to take a close introspective approach toward our inner lives and relationships in general.
    Before you have afraid of death, be afraid that maybe you were dead and still living. Be afraid that tomorrow will come and you don’t have time enough to live your life according to your intentions, and love those who you love back properly, even if it will be against the will of your family system.

    Your family system and your ancestors want you to be even happier than they were without sacrificing your soul and the souls of the ones you love.

    Think about it next time you run away from a relationship because of fear. Think about why your brother or sister is rebellious, and have relationships with people outside of your circle. Whom he or she is trying to give peace and light through his or her actions?

  • Demons and Emotional Maturity.

    9 de Abril de 2020 by

    We are much less fragile than we’re often led to think. In reality, we are very robust; we need surprisingly little in our lives to get by, and are able to sustain an awful lot of hits and still, somehow, keep going. Focus on this truth; remind yourself of your ability to persevere.

  • People Who Like Us!

    7 de Abril de 2020 by

    “When we feel loved, there is no space for confusion because words are perfectly in tune with behavior. Words and gestures seem to spin and dance with no clouds full of doubts over your head.”

  • Do You Respect Your Animal Nature in Intimate Relationships?

    5 de Abril de 2020 by

    In life and love, you are a natural animal who wants to belong and attach to other people. But in the middle of all this freedom around sex, bad behavior, and detachment. We lost rules and the protocol and ability to speak up our truth and needs. Everyone is scared of being hurt, but let me clarify here one thing: love has no guarantees, and love only grow and flourish when you have no armor or guarded up.

  • When Bae Says: We need to Talk!

    25 de Março de 2020 by

    “You know something is up when your boyfriend or girlfriend bae tells you “we need to talk.” Most of the time it can be a pretty ominous sign that you really screwed up in your relationship. But dating can be full of surprises and sometimes it’s not as bad as it seems! We hope…”

  • Breakups and Love in Mayonnaise

    20 de Março de 2020 by

    Although some relationships will fail naturally, others fail because people have this idea that good partners are pushovers or too good to be true. This fallacy leads many men and women to have mayonnaise relationships or love in mayonnaise because of fear of being hurt, and someone will take advantage of them.

  • The Power of Not Belonging

    17 de Março de 2020 by

    Being the “black sheep” means you don’t sell yourself away based on what you hear and what people try to sell you into it. You keep your voice, your standards, and your individuality.

  • The Secrets of Resiliency

    10 de Março de 2020 by

    In a period where easiness is preferred, great are the people who among difficulties reinvent themselves and never stop trying. The perfect life only can exist when you experience real pain and real joy.

  • Girl, In Love, Play Real!

    8 de Março de 2020 by

    “Love can be hard to receive when we’re not fundamentally convinced of our own loveability. We spend our time seeking out those who can make us suffer in ways that feel familiar. And it becomes natural to assume that a kind lover has missed something – and perhaps then to try to behave in disgusting ways just to make sure they understand we’re really not who they thought we were, and will therefore leave us in painful but somehow psychologically gratifying ways.”

  • You Are More Than a Womb!

    1 de Março de 2020 by

    “Did you know that for every 4500-5000 female births, 1 baby girl is born with an underdeveloped uterus and vagina? This is a syndrome called Mayer-Rokitansky-Kuster-Hauser syndrome or MRKH and is more common than you may think.

    These women have the frightening and difficult experience of accepting their inability to carry their own child, since they don’t have a uterus and may also be feeling uncomfortable forming personal relationships. This may be further exacerbated when there is a very short or even absent vagina and the entire association of ‘womanhood’ may be called into question.”

  • You can!

    25 de Fevereiro de 2020 by

    I want to let you know that you can reinvent yourself and change who you perceive yourself to be.
    Look into your eyes in the mirror and ask yourself, “Who Am I?”

  • Why They Leave Us?

    22 de Fevereiro de 2020 by

    On the Journey of Love, loving on another means giving the light and teaching that exists uncomfortable truths about us. Teaching it is not one assault or that you are saying goodbye to love, but rather embracing another human being by living up to the true meaning of real love. In the intricacies of romanticism darkness, we rebel against our partners, and we feel betrayed because they want to change us. It is legitimate to change, and legitimate to teach because love is the ultimate aspiration where you reveal your true potential.

  • Instructions Manual for Better love

    19 de Fevereiro de 2020 by

    To truly love our partners, we cannot see them as adults but as children. As ironic as this idea may be, when we see the ones we love like children, we will be more generous and compassionate in the interpretation of their behavior.

  • Valentine’s Day on In Love With Her Show

    14 de Fevereiro de 2020 by

    Valentine’s day more than just buy flowers, chocolates or have a fancy dinner is a moment where you can think about the ones you love. Today is the day that we all should stop for a while and ask without fear deep questions to identify what needs to change.

    Across 15 minutes, you will understand why some breakups are so painful and hard to understand, but also you will know why and how to deal with it. Love is a journey, an action without unicorns or fairytales.

    I wish you happiness and real love, because you are real.

  • Endless Love

    6 de Fevereiro de 2020 by

    Endless love could be a literary novel. But in reality, it’s the story of one Portuguese couple, where husband’s premature death leads his wife to want to fulfill his/their last wish. Have a child.

  • Choose love, but choose wisely!

    4 de Fevereiro de 2020 by

    More than often, we reject good people, because they seem “too good” for us and well the explanation for that is quite simple. We are not looking for romantic love, we are looking, somehow, for familiar love.

  • Chose Love not Fear

    2 de Fevereiro de 2020 by

    Be smart and part of men and women population who do what few can do, love each other, and be resilient even when “death” is just around the corner.

  • The 7 keys to Have a Happy Relationship

    1 de Fevereiro de 2020 by

    “Many of us aren’t consciously aware of the ways they may be afraid of love. We may see the real problem in the relationship as being the ways it’s changed. We may list all the issues our partner has, the way he no longer looks at us or she no longer treats us. Or, we may notice our own behavior changing, and chalk that up to no longer feeling the same way toward our partner. However, the real question to ask is why did these dynamics shift in the first place? The answer to that often has to do with fear and fantasy.”

  • The Beauty of Intensity

    29 de Janeiro de 2020 by

    Why it’s so important to honor your roots and know your protocol when relating to others? Your roots, your cultural background is part of who you are as an individual. It’s the map that guides you in social interactions. Then what is your protocol? Your protocol is your ability to understand what you want and need to be happy. The protocol is the base that sustains the longevity of your relationship, where clarity and communication is the key to solve misunderstandings and mismatch information.

  • Don’t be less for someone who can’t be More!

    27 de Janeiro de 2020 by

    They dump you because you were too good to be true?

    There are some individuals when they found what they always wanted (mentally). They think there is one agenda behind the good, or you try to use them. But you know what? Never, ever be less! Never be the less of what you are to accept less of what you deserve/want.

  • Are you Confuse?

    24 de Janeiro de 2020 by

    Acknowledge one thing for your entire life: You aren’t too much or too intense for someone who wants the same as you. You will be that for men and women who don’t know who they are or what they want in life.

  • Avoidant and Anxious Partners Dance by The School of Life

    21 de Janeiro de 2020 by

    “Relationships is an area where we too often get stuck, unable to make ourselves understood or find the sort of love we need. This is largely due to a myth that loving another human should be something we all naturally know how to do. Far from it; we believe that love is a skill, not just an emotion – and that it’s a skill we all have to learn and carefully rehearse.”

  • I love You, But I’m Not In Love with You!

    18 de Janeiro de 2020 by

    “When we want to experience real love, we have to have tools in our hands to help us to overcome the hardships of daily life. It’s easy to disconnect from the ones we love and call it quits when there is so much to explore and learn. Falling out of love is a real feeling but also means a new opportunity to discover who we are and our partners are. It is also one opportunity for both parties to see where they failed, and understand that our inner children need to be healed.”

  • Marie Fredriksson

    10 de Dezembro de 2019 by

    “My Papa told me to stay out of trouble:
    “When you’ve found your man, make sure he’s for real!”.
    I’ve learned that nothing really lasts forever
    I sleep with the scars I wear that won’t heal.
    They won’t heal
    Cos everytime I seem to fall in love
    Crash! Boom! Bang!
    I find the heart but then I hit the wall
    Crash! Boom! Bang!
    That’s the call, that’s the game and the pain stays the same.”

  • Bounce Back from Adversity: When Enough is Enough

    4 de Dezembro de 2019 by

    Those who are resilient are able to believe in themselves and their ability to effectively manage life’s challenges. Also, those who are more resilient than others tend to be more proactive and are more inclined to work hard to prevent certain issues and illnesses from occurring. It might be their only key to survival.

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