• Forgiveness? Think Twice Before You Decide to Forgive

    30 de Março de 2021 by

    Forgiveness is powerful but before advising it to anyone or even you decide to forgive someone, think about the diversity of injuries and how you or the other person you are counseling is feeling. We need to call people out and stop being a society of conniving where in the blink of a blind eye, people are hurt constantly. The only way development and social equality will happen by starting to call people out because of their bad actions. But also by stepping into the role of being an active citizen. And this can’t happen by silent your voice.

  • Head Games and Yo-Yo Relationships: Spotting and Avoiding Toxicity

    20 de Março de 2021 by

    Although the word toxic is becoming a usual label everywhere and for everyone, we should be careful not only to use it. But also correctly identify what is toxic by running away from it or avoiding altogether in the first place.

    Head games or yo-yo relationships are a typical example of toxicity in the dating/intimate universe.

  • Be human, be the woman – March 8th

    8 de Março de 2021 by

    “We are most helpful to women in other countries when we are a model of change, when we share organizational strategies, help call international attention to abuses, lobby for international organizations to classify violations of women’s rights as human rights violations, contribute money to their gender equality campaigns, respond to their “action alerts,” compare stories of struggle, and respect their right to be the architects of their own change. We are least ineffective when we try to tell them what they must do and how they should do it as we don’t usually understand the relevant cultural contexts.”

    Shawn Meghan Burn, Ph.D

  • Dating Life: Why Activation Energy Matters?

    7 de Março de 2021 by

    “Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and conventional wisdom both suggest that love is a fundamental human need. Most people meet their significant others through their social circles or work/school functions. However, these pools can be relatively shallow. In the search for a potential date, more and more people are switching to less traditional methods.

    The popularity of online dating is being driven by several things, but a major factor is time. Online dating presents an effective solution to a serious problem.

    Browsing profiles isn’t nearly as time-consuming (or daunting) as mixing with people in a social context. Statistics suggest that about 1 in 5 relationships begin online nowadays. It’s estimated that by 2040, 70% of us will have met our significant other online.

    The problem with a lot of online dating applications is that they don’t really work. Before you throw caution to the wind and empty your wallet into the pockets of an online app with the reckless abandon of a love-struck teenager, there are a few things you should know.”

    Ryan Anderson, Ph.D.

  • How To Let Them Go Gracefully?

    27 de Fevereiro de 2021 by

    “Holding on to pain doesn’t fix anything. Replaying the past over and over again doesn’t change it, and wishing things were different doesn’t make it so. In some cases, especially when it comes to the past, all you can do is accept whatever it is you’re holding on to and then let it go. That’s how everything changes. You have to let go of what is hurting you, even if it feels almost impossible. Deciding to hold on to the past will hold you back from creating a strong sense of self — a self that isn’t defined by your past, but rather by who you want to be.”

    Ilene Strauss Cohen Ph.D.

  • How To Mend a Broken Heart?

    16 de Fevereiro de 2021 by

    “By gradually re-involving ourselves with someone who is capable of being consistently caring, we are soothed. The pleasure and ease of the connection restore our hope and faith that had been battered. The comfort of a loving partnership bathes our hearts in loving-kindness. When at long last, we exchange love and care with someone who is safe, consistent, respectful, and fully present with us, the depth of appreciation of their trustworthiness heals our broken heart. Then we can live in gratitude for the love that has been hard-won.”

  • Let’s Rethink Valentine’s Day Using Gaugin.

    13 de Fevereiro de 2021 by

    Being single shouldn’t be extremely frustrating, especially when everyone around you seems to have a lovebird by their side. If you’ve sworn off Valentine’s Day, I would like to ask you to reconsider. After all, you can make it a great occasion all on your own!

  • Why Shouldn’t You Care About What People Think About You?

    8 de Fevereiro de 2021 by

    “Some people will disapprove of you, of course. No matter who you are, some people will disapprove. Oftentimes, such people are in the business of looking down on everyone. They judge everybody unfavorably because of their own emotional needs. They will consider some people not well-enough educated, or from the wrong background, or too something or other—not classy enough for them, perhaps. Such a person—even if he or she is a family member—is not worth paying attention to.”

    By Fredric Neuman M.D.

  • The “Maybe Box” and “The Flaky Behavior”: What Should You Do?

    6 de Fevereiro de 2021 by

    “Technology gives us a sense of control over our lives; basically, we’re able to hold our world in the palm of our hand. Since social media initiated more quantitative measures of “friends,” “shares,” and “likes,” human connection has become increasingly mechanized. This creates a distance from the actual person with whom we are interacting and can make a relationship more transactional than if we had to speak face to face. We may not even recognize the effect our behaviors have on others.”

    Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.

  • The Dangerous Thing About “Manifestating”

    1 de Fevereiro de 2021 by

    “People generally talk about manifestation as the process of using thoughts, feelings, and beliefs to bring something into reality, but given the science behind manifestation, ACTIONS are the key part of the manifestation process.”

    Tchiki Davis, Ph.D.

  • 2021: Get Your Brain To Focus

    5 de Janeiro de 2021 by

    “Distractions are not just frustrating; they can be exhausting. By the time you get back to where you were, your ability to stay focused goes down even further as you have even less glucose available now. Change focus ten times an hour (one study showed people in offices did so as much as 20 times an hour), and your productive thinking time is only a fraction of what’s possible. Less energy equals less capacity to understand, decide, recall, memorize, and inhibit. The result could be mistakes on important tasks. Or distractions can cause you to forget good ideas and lose valuable insights. Having a great idea and not being able to remember it can be frustrating, like an itch you can’t scratch, yet another distraction to manage.”

  • Erotic Dawn

    18 de Dezembro de 2020 by

    “Erotic intelligence stretches far beyond a repertoire of sexual techniques. It is an intelligence that celebrates curiosity and play, the power of imagination, and our infinite fascination with what is hidden and mysterious.”

    Esther Perel

  • 2020 Last Article: My Real Life Personal Reflection and Growth

    7 de Dezembro de 2020 by

    “Resilient individuals find a calling and dedicate themselves to what gives life purpose. Pursuing a meaningful purpose may involve stress and pain in the short run but over the long run brings meaning (e.g., raising children, seeking personal growth, training for a marathon). People with a sense of purpose feel less anxiety and stress (Hagerty, 2016). As Nietzsche remarked, “He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.”

    Shahram Heshmat Ph.D.

  • The Tantric Heart Girl

    29 de Novembro de 2020 by

    The keys for female sexuality are “responsive female sexual desire” and valuing sensual, playful, and erotic scenarios in addition to intercourse. The new mantra emphasizes that sharing pleasure and eroticism is more important than individual sex performance.

    Satisfaction certainly involves orgasm but is much more than orgasm. Satisfaction involves feeling good about yourself as a sexual person and bonded as a sexual couple. This mantra allows women and men to have a shared language.”

  • Are You Ready To Love? – Article requested by Reilly

    28 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “We sometimes go in and out of relationships and not really know (or understand) what’s getting in the way. What makes some relationships click and others not so much, or why we or someone else walks away or refuses to. It’s important to look at what WE bring to the table.”

    Vijayeta Sinh Ph.D.

  • Blissful Were Your Kisses.

    27 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “Sensuality is the ability to perceive sensations from something that happens to or comes into contact with your body. It is the quality and skill to get you there, be present and feel it fully. It means you actively inhabit your body. Sensuality is not only sensations of a sexual nature. Think about it.”

    Adena Bank Lees, LCSW

  • International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women and Men: 25 November

    25 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “In the run up to International Women’s Day last week, the Diversity Council of Australia (DCA) published a list of 8 common myths about workplace sexual harassment. One of these myths is the belief that sexual harassment only happens to straight women, when in reality it happens to people of all genders and sexual orientations.

    According to report by Rebecca DiGriolamo in the The Advertiser (Adelaide), nearly 1 in 2 complaints of sexual harassment accepted by the commission in 2017/2018 were made by men.

    Sexual harassment against men at work is more common than most people think. Research by the Australian Human Rights Commission has found that 23% of women and 16% of men experienced sexual harassment at work in Australia in 2018.”

    by Australian Men’s Health Forum

  • Are You Over-Focusing on “Connection?”

    22 de Novembro de 2020 by

    Like cognitive neuroscience teach us, when it comes to intimate relationships, we should choose “boring” and not “over the top” candidates. Not because we are picky or mean, but because “the spark” isn’t necessarily a good thing or a reliable source of information if someone will be the right partner for you. “Chemistry” is a cocktail of lust and danger that wrings the dopamine out of your neurotransmitters.

  • Let’s Talk About Sex And The Woman’s Role to Liberate Men.

    20 de Novembro de 2020 by

    In times of so much online interactions and technology trance, we need emotional educators, people who are emotionally free from lobbies and patriarchal ideas. We need to educate our children and set them free from intoxicating ideologies and behaviors. We need people who are real people and women who can lead and show the way. Forgetting unnecessary and outdated feminism by rescuing the art of sensuality, and embrace the power that they can choose who they want, when, where, and how. And the lives they want to live also by stop being the Instagram shelf women.

  • SPS, Attachment Styles, Relationships and Breakups

    18 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “It is critical to understand that sensitivity is a temperament—an aspect of personality, such as introversion or extroversion, which is believed to be innate rather than learned. It has been estimated that 15 to 20 percent of the population has a Highly Sensitive temperament. It occurs about equally for men and women. Being an HSP is not considered to be a disorder or malfunction. Unfortunately, in spite of being a significant percentage of the population, HSPs are still not well understood, and their particular challenges are not often recognized.”

    Dianne Grande Ph.D.

  • Being a Highly Sensitive Person, It Isn’t What You Think!

    16 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “There are biological reasons for all the components of this trait. An HSP’s brain is wired differently and the nervous system is highly sensitive with a lower threshold for action (2). This hyper-excitability contributes to increased emotional reactivity, a lower threshold for sensory information (e.g. bothered by noise, or too much light), and increased awareness of subtleties (e.g. quick to notice odors).”

    Marwa Azab Ph.D.

  • The Beautiful Art Of Flirting

    15 de Novembro de 2020 by

    The beautiful art of flirting helps us to realize our insecurities towards other’s approaches, destroy emotional barriers, and believe that exists, beautiful people in this world.

  • The Neurological Effects of Cycling

    14 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “How can aerobic exercise and cycling prevent brain diseases? The answer is simple. Every time we do aerobic exercise, we increase our level of blood flow to the entire body, including the brain. Also, we should understand and accept that to age properly look after the levels of hormones is imperative. Cycling, for example, can enhance the production of neurons but also stimulate the production of dopamine, serotonin, and ignite positively hippocampus structures, which plays an important role in memory and spatial navigation.”

  • 11.11 – Celebrating Single’s Day in Portugal

    11 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “It’s important to recognize why one is single, whether being single is a choice or arises from unconscious factors (and if so what those factors are likely to be), to what extent social influence plays a role in relationship status, and, if partnered, whether one is genuinely interested in being in a relationship. As stigma about singlehood decreases, more people will end up being single, more people will choose being single out of a secure attachment style, and (hopefully) fewer people will be partnered or single for the wrong reasons. Models of secure singlehood will become more defined socially, better understood psychologically, and happy single people will be able to live openly, without having to deal with bias.”

    Grant Hilary Brenner MD, FAPA

  • Breakups: He Asked Me To Be Friends, What Should I Do?

    6 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “When you go through a breakup, especially one that’s unexpected, your body may register it as an emergency and go into “fight-or-flight” mode. Being in this state triggers the release of hormones that can prepare your body to stay and deal with a threat or to run away to safety. It can also trigger a rapid heartbeat or trembling.

    Our muscles tense, we lose our appetite, we may experience [gastrointestinal] disruption, and we’re likely to have trouble falling asleep. Being in this physically hyper-vigilant state over a period of time can lead to headaches, stomachaches, and muscle soreness”

    by Dr. Kristin Bianchi

  • Exercise: Hack Your Behavior!

    1 de Novembro de 2020 by

    ” Freud believed that all humans experience something he called “repetition compulsion,” which he saw as a biological need to repeat old behaviors. Neuroscientists have been finding evidence in recent years to back him up on this, suggesting that that neuropathways set themselves up in our brains and push us to keep doing the same behavior.”

    F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W.

  • Don’t Seek The “click”, Seek Real Lasting Love!

    30 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “Seeking true love is a difficult path, so any assistance available is appreciated by most. Whether you are good looking or not, wealthy or not, young or old, finding a date or finding long-term love is a shared goal that requires you to put yourself out there at risk of personal rejection and humiliation—nothing many of us enjoy.”

    Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.

  • Breakups: Don’t Blame Your Ex!

    26 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “The best partnerships might be an honest merging of ambivalences, two people who admit they each want conflicting things, a bunny and a buddy, brutal honesty and tactful kindness, and can laugh together about the predicament of trying to get that from one person for life.”

    Jeremy E. Sherman Ph.D.

  • What’s Healthy Narcissism?

    16 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “People with healthy narcissism have a quiet, comfortable confidence. They are aware of their strengths as well as their shortcomings, and view both as essential to their wholeness. They know they are not perfect, and have no expectations or intentions to be so. People with healthy egos view themselves as learners who are constantly growing, and are not at all seduced into trying to be better than others.”

    Sherrie Campbell

  • Let’s Rethink Our Participation in Dating Apps: Tinder Investigation.

    13 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “In times past, men and women tended to meet at work, through mutual friends, or at social venues such as church or sports clubs. In other words, their relationship was rooted in a pre-existing social ecology where others could generally be trusted. This could inhibit contemptible dating behavior as wrongdoers faced opprobrium from the pre-existing community.

    However, no such social ecology exists within the world of dating apps. On the contrary, some dating app users can hide under a cloak of anonymity or deceit. This can include deception about personal characteristics such as age or profession, as well as dishonesty regarding intentions.”

    by Rob Whitley, Ph.D.

  • Let’s Talk About “Situationships”?

    11 de Outubro de 2020 by

    What is a “situationship”? Considering all the possible labels that we are using now to define intimate relationships, a “situationship” is a relationship that hasn’t been define yet.

    by Alexandra Maria dos Santos

  • The Real Meaning of Stoicism

    10 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “Stoics place a lot of value on…values — your principles, what you use to guide your life, you deciding the type of person you want to be. These are different from “shoulds” and rules that you may inherit from your parents, your culture. They are chosen by you, and you are responsible for putting them into practice daily.

    The key here is again deciding what those values are; deciding and imaging the person you want to be and become, different from your parents, your siblings, those around you. You seeing yourself as the creator of your own present and future.”

    Robert Taibbi, L.C.S.W.,

  • You Had An Amazing First Date… But?!

    6 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “Many people worry about the dreaded first date. Dating is a universal stressor. This is because rejection comes with the territory. Fear of being rejected or even the fear of having to reject someone can be overwhelming. Mix in unpleasant past experiences and questionable self-esteem and you have a recipe for dating distress!”

    Chamin Ajjan MS, LCSW, ACT

  • October: Warm and Undying love

    2 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “When people rise up to a higher level of responsibility to self-observe and shift their attitudes and behaviors, the other person cannot help but shift their own. I sometimes refer to this as “changing the way we dance.”

    by Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W., and Charlie Bloom, M.S.W.

  • Decoding Women: Love, Timing and Why You Will Lose Us.

    21 de Setembro de 2020 by

    “I have heard many women ask if they should downplay their intelligence or success when first meeting a potential partner. Absolutely not. It is important to be proud of who you are, what you have accomplished, and what you stand for. Not everyone is threatened by the accomplishments of others, and it is important to find a partner who values you for you. Additionally, if we are more explicit about what we are capable of, perhaps we can shift the dynamic and how people view powerful women.”

    Marisa T. Cohen Ph.D., CPLC

  • Long Distant Relationships: How to Sustain and When to Call it Quits?

    11 de Setembro de 2020 by

    “In today´s world, many partners live apart. Not just in different zip codes, but in different cities and time zones, sometimes in different parts of the world. Job opportunities, educational aspirations, and family responsibilities often separate couples for extended periods of time, relegating their communication to long distance methods of maintaining relational quality and intimacy. In fact, some couples have always lived apart. The prevalence of online dating offers access to a global pool of potential suitors, which can result in matches made in heaven geographically challenged on earth.”

    Wendy L. Patrick, JD, Ph.D.

  • Father Complex: Are You Emotionally Broken?

    4 de Setembro de 2020 by

    “Daddy issues aren’t really about you. They’re about your dad. Too often women are given the label of having “daddy issues,” as though they’re the ones to blame for their wounds. Being told you have daddy issues can bring up shame and hurt. But really, your dad is responsible for not meeting your needs. If your dad had issues and wasn’t able to be emotionally available, why wouldn’t you be wounded? Daddy issues are nothing to be ashamed of. You’re not defective or damaged. Your needs weren’t met, and you now have healing to do.”

    by Caitlin Cantor, LCSW, CST

  • The Fifteen Types Of Women That You Should Avoid to Have a Long-term Relationship.

    31 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “The more time a person invests emotionally in a relationship (even an overall negative one), the more a person will persevere to try to make it work (even though it hasn’t been working, resulting in a tricky cycle). And because there is still basic attachment and love in such relationships, any self-awareness, any intellectual truths, are pushed to the side, and their choices become heavily ruled by their emotions.”

    Madeleine A. Fugère Ph.D.

  • The Bomb Men: The Sixteen Types of Man That You Should Avoid Dating.

    27 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “With few exceptions, human beings want to be emotionally and physically close to each other. Life seems better shared. And yet no area of human endeavor seems more fraught with challenges and difficulties than our relationships with others. Relationships, like most things in life worth having, require effort.”

    By Thomas L. Cory, Ph.D.

  • Two Hundred Years of 1820’s Liberal Revolution: When Portugal Was a French And a British “Colonie”.

    24 de Agosto de 2020 by

    Contrary to what has been published today in the Portuguese media, we are not celebrating 200 years of a new national constitution. Which only occurred in 1822. We are celebrating the end of more than one decade of French and then British dominance. We are mourning the loss of Brazil as part of our international territory (1822), and mourning the achievements we had as a liberal nation which were captured and ridiculed in the XX and XXI century, by conservative reactionaryism and small minds, fueling lobbies interests and perpetuation of inequalities.

  • My Relationships Don’t Last, What’s Wrong with Me?

    20 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “When we genuinely trust another person, the dynamics flow more smoothly and openly. A good relationship is when two people acknowledge each other’s past, support each other’s presence, and love each other enough to nurture their future. The most basic and influential way to connect with another person is to listen.”

    Brian Nadon

  • Loyal, Brave and True by Christina Aguilera

    17 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

  • Let’s Talk About Marriage And Have Kids Without Sounding an Ultimatum?

    15 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “One study published in Menopause Journal titled, “Extended maternal age at birth of last child and women’s longevity in the Long Life Family Study,” reported that women who birthed their last child after they were 33 saw a “significant association for older maternal age,” and had greater odds of living to 95.

    Previous findings, from The New England Centenarian Study, found that women who gave birth after age 40 “were four times more likely to live to 100 or longer than were women who gave birth at younger ages.

    A 2018 Pew study, “They’re Waiting Longer…” points out women ages 40-44 who have never been married have had a baby. Pew reassures those who are bombarded with questions that although women are having babies later, “Women are more likely now to become mothers than they were a decade ago.””

    Susan Newman Ph.D.

  • Healing and Staying Healthy After a Breakup!

    13 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “Being able to see the ways in which you grow after a breakup doesn’t take away the sadness, pain, or feelings of loss. But it can help increase your resilience and make it easier to bounce back from the experience. Some of us have more difficulty looking for these signs of growth than others, and for some of us it takes longer to get there. But if you start looking, you’ll very likely start to see some ways that you have grown in the process. And that growth is going to be part of the self that you move forward with into the rest of your life.”

    F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W.

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