• Healing and Staying Healthy After a Breakup!

    13 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “Being able to see the ways in which you grow after a breakup doesn’t take away the sadness, pain, or feelings of loss. But it can help increase your resilience and make it easier to bounce back from the experience. Some of us have more difficulty looking for these signs of growth than others, and for some of us it takes longer to get there. But if you start looking, you’ll very likely start to see some ways that you have grown in the process. And that growth is going to be part of the self that you move forward with into the rest of your life.”

    F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W.

  • How To Get Over Someone You Thought Would Be Your Person Forever?

    8 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “Women in particular typically “tend and befriend” others, as an evolved survival mechanism. If women are unable to maintain a relationship or friendship, they may feel disappointed in themselves, not just their partners or friends. The inability to keep a relationship on track, even if the other person is to blame, can be perceived as a personal failure.

    Eventually, the loss will begin to feel more like your history, not your present. In fact, research suggests that relationships that are unsatisfying or marred with unpleasant interactions are worse for your emotional well-being than an absence of romance or friendships.”

    Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D.

  • “Ringo, I Love You”: They Thought Cher Was a Man!

    1 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “The song is completely innocuous. However, Cher’s vocals on the song made many people assume she was a man. Because of this, people interpreted “Ringo, I Love You” as a gay love song. Subsequently, “Ringo, I Love You” was banned from the majority of radio stations. The song was a commercial flop.”

  • Want a Satisfying Sexual Life? Girls, Let’s Lube!

    31 de Julho de 2020 by

    In both women and men, lube enhances skin sensitivity to erotic touch. Many women of all ages don’t self-lubricate sufficiently for comfortable intercourse. And many post-menopausal women suffer chronic vaginal dryness. As a result, many sexologists encourage couples of all ages to use lube every time.

    Girls, let’s lube!

  • How Men Confuse Sexual Attraction with Emotional Connection?

    25 de Julho de 2020 by

    “All of us have unresolved childhood hurts due to betrayal, anger, manipulation, or abuse. Unconsciously, we seek healing through our partner. And we try to achieve this healing by bonding with someone we sense might hurt us in similar ways to how we were hurt as children, in the hope that we can then convince him or her to finally love and accept us.

    Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which remind us of how we were wounded the most.”

    Ken Page L.C.S.W.

  • Motherhood: Are Children for me?

    10 de Julho de 2020 by

    “A society that properly loved children would know that the single greatest contribution to children’s welfare is the removal of the idea that everyone should automatically have them. A good society would give equal prestige to childless and childful states. We best honor children, the born and the unborn, by accepting that parenting should never be the automatic choice – just as the wisest way to ensure that people will have happy marriages is to destigmatize the single state.”

    by School of Life

  • Social Media: The Short Cut Path to Become a Narcissist

    8 de Julho de 2020 by

    “Unfortunately, most of the individuals don’t understand that social platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and common dating apps. Such as Tinder or OkCupid are made to addict our brain and change the way we relate and perceive relationships. The usage of algorithms is a common way that those platforms use to manipulate your emotions and needs. The neuroscience behind social media is to make you crave more, more validation, more attention, more praise, and for that reason, in your feeds tend to appear more the posts of people who you add recently to testify your compatibility.”

  • The Power Of Real Friendships

    6 de Julho de 2020 by

    “Be there for friends when they face difficult times. Recognize that even if your presence and a warm hug are all that you can offer, these gestures speak volumes to a friend in need.”

    Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D.

  • What Do We Want From Men?

    3 de Julho de 2020 by

    “Women don’t need partners who invest all their energy in trying to prove how strong, manly, masculine, macho, or heroic they are. They just want men who are willing to meet them where they are and treat them fairly and equitably — and are able to make sure that the romantic spark keeps burning.”

    Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.

  • Penis Size, does it Really Matter?

    2 de Julho de 2020 by

    At ancient cultures, like Roman and Greek, if we take a look at how male statuettes are made, their penises are surprisingly small with clear evidence that what matters is the body structure and testicles form. In this period, virility and potency were centered in the testicles, and the penis was only the instrument of sperm passage for fertilization. This idea that small is perfection lasted till renaissance.

  • What Babies Can Teach Us About Love and Life?

    30 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Babies are soft. Anyone looking at them can see the tender, fragile skin and know it for the rose-leaf softness that invites a finger’s touch. But when you live with them and love them, you feel the softness going inward, the round-cheeked flesh wobbly as custard, the boneless splay of the tiny hands.”

    Diana Gabaldon

  • Are You Looking For a Penis Or a Real Man?

    28 de Junho de 2020 by

    “To master the terror of another letdown, we go cold, we respond sarcastically to sincere compliments and insist with aggression that they don’t really care for us at all, thereby ensuring that they eventually won’t.

    To escape these debilitating cycles, we need to accept that we’re searching for someone to love us while wrestling with the most fateful of background suspicions: that we don’t in any way deserve love.”

    School of Life

  • Let It Go Aka Freedom

    26 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Past hurts and old injustices have a way of keeping us stuck in our tracks, unable to move forward or experience joy. It can take a radical reboot to get past yesterday.

    As your skill at mindfulness increases, you will, by definition, get past the past.”

  • This Is How It Feels: Narcissistic Father’s

    21 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm, but the harm (that they cause) does not interest them. Or they do not see it, or they justify it because they are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves.” —T.S. Eliot

  • “I’m Done!” – The Perils of Infatuation

    20 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Levitan quotes the research of psychologist Dorothy Tennov who found that the duration of infatuation typically lasts at most “between approximately 18 months and three years.” Circumstances like a long-distance relationship or chronic relationship insecurity may artificially extend the tingling phenomenon, at the cost of delaying the shift either into a departure from the relationship or into commitment to a mature and reliable love partnership.”

  • Bae, Your Family Drive Me Nuts!

    19 de Junho de 2020 by

    Does your boyfriend or girlfriend’s family drive you crazy? Come to think of it, I don’t know anyone who’s family doesn’t drive them nuts. Let’s be honest, we all have family issues. It’s okay. Just laugh at another funny barbie video where Barb shows us what lengths she is willing to go to maintain some form of sanity.

  • Sexual and Intimacy Anorexia is Abuse!

    18 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Although still stigmatized in our culture, sex addiction has steadily gained recognition in the public consciousness over the past decade, resulting in a host of treatment centers, rehabs, support groups and specialized therapists. What is less talked about, but equally devastating, is “sexual anorexia,” a concept that refers to the compulsive avoidance of sexual nourishment and intimacy.”

    Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT

  • One Year Of Ouso Escrever

    17 de Junho de 2020 by

    “The more we see love as an ethereal concept, the more we lose sight of the specific behaviors that make love an active expression of our feelings for others. When we see love as a product of action, however, we can look into ourselves and our relationships with fresh eyes and examine how loving we truly are.”

  • Narcissists And The Silent Treatment

    16 de Junho de 2020 by

    “The silent treatment, even if it’s brief, activates the anterior cingulate cortex – the part of the brain that detects physical pain. The initial pain is the same, regardless of whether the exclusion is by partners, strangers, close friends or enemies.

    The silent treatment happens when one partner pressures the other with requests, criticism or complaints and the other responds with silence and emotional distance.”

  • Why Break Up With a Narcissist Isn’t a Normal Breakup?

    12 de Junho de 2020 by

    “A strong you to a narcissist individual means that they are less than. And they can never ever be less than. They are powerless when their whole life revolves around getting power over other people. Feeling a deep sense of powerlessness in their childhood is what turned them into a narcissist in the first place, remember. You’re poking at a core wound. That’s why it’s so scary for them.”

  • Slow Down To Wake Up!

    11 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Being in nature is our opportunity to check in with ourselves and listen to our bodies and minds. We may realize that our mind chatter is so intense that the stillness of nature is actually stressing us out. We may be exhausted once we’re at our retreat destination. All of this is important information that will help us take better care of our minds and bodies.”

  • Time Out From Dating!

    7 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Relationships can be a source of personal growth and shared satisfaction. Relationships bring out our best when we are thriving with one another. Even in times of trouble, when they are based on solid foundations, and partners are committed to one another, relationships can be a source of strength and an opportunity for mutual growth. At other times, relationships are destructive, causing more harm than good and presenting few opportunities for shared constructive change. Dysfunctional relationships are akin to an addiction.”

    Source: Psychology Today

  • Amalia Rodrigues By Cuca Roseta

    4 de Junho de 2020 by

    And then there’s the fado, Portugal’s most famous musical form. It’s forever associated with the tremulous voice of Amalia Rodrigues (1920-1999), who appeared dressed in a black shawl to sing dramatic, minor-key ballads in a remarkable voice, sounding like she was on the verge of tears. But for some, it’s a sound forever tarnished by its association with fascism. After the fall of the dictatorship in 1974, many on the Portuguese left saw the fado as something shameful. It was seen, at best, as a conservative outlet for national misery, at worst as an authorised voice for Catholic fascism.

  • “The Dawn Of The Dating Apocalypse”

    2 de Junho de 2020 by

    Our current hookup culture and the rise of online dating apps have made emotional unavailability a new normal (Garcia, et. al 2012). That’s why we see so many people feeling entitled to all the benefits of one intimate relationship without actually being in one. Older and younger generations are becoming accustomed to the idea of having another date or rebound at their fingertips, without doing the inner work of healing from past relationships or their self-esteem.

  • Between Good or Bad: Choose To Be Present Within Yourself!

    31 de Maio de 2020 by

    Think about this: “Whether it’s society’s pressure, our culture, or the drive to try and make everyone happy around us, we all face obstacles to going deeper within our reality. This can leave us feeling unfulfilled, anxious, and depressed, searching for meaning outside ourselves, and trying anything to develop a real connection. Many of us feel… Ler mais

  • Why is this Adele Song So Educational?

    27 de Maio de 2020 by

    “There are some people who refuse to believe that it is their problem that they cannot deeply and consistently love someone who loves them. They convince themselves that if they do not love someone, it is because it is the other person’s fault. They believe that there is a perfect person out there that they will find it easy to love. Each time they become infatuated with someone new, they idealize this person. Then as they inevitably discover the person’s flaws, they become disillusioned, and devalue, and discard them.”

  • The Healing Journey of Slowing Down

    22 de Maio de 2020 by

    “You may think it’s selfish to focus on your needs, but it’s the job your brain evolved to do. If you invest your energy in the needs of the energy vampire instead, your brain will alarm you with cortisol. This doesn’t mean you should follow your short run impulses, since long-term consequences trigger cortisol if you don’t account for them. It means your brain will reward you with a good feeling if you stay focused on your needs, whether others consent or not.”

  • Quitting Social Media

    18 de Maio de 2020 by

    “A digital detox can give time for introspection and renewal. It can be a positive for mental and physical health, and create a new space for alternative health-promoting activities

    Try it and see for yourself.”

  • Dating and Fertility Challenges

    15 de Maio de 2020 by

    “Infertility can have a profound impact on one’s mental health. When men and women find out that they can’t conceive, they may experience the same painful emotions as anyone coping with grief or profound loss. Common reactions include shock, frustration, grief, anger, decreased self-esteem, anxiety, and depression, but feelings about infertility can vary greatly depending on the source of the problems. Men, in particular, find it far easier to deal with a partner’s infertility than with their own.”

  • Why Conventional Dating Tips Leads To Disaster?

    12 de Maio de 2020 by

    Emotional trauma and fear of intimacy is one good cocktail to sabotage intimate relationships when they become real, because when there are unresolved issues. Small behaviors can trigger the old memories you have in your brain and projecting them in the present moment, causing anxiety, and the need to escape.

  • Use Nature as Fuel!

    10 de Maio de 2020 by

    “A growing body of research indicates that spending more time in natural green spaces such as parks, woodlands, mountains, and beaches has healing properties and underscores the importance of nature on your mental and physical health and well-being.

    Previous studies showed that living in greener urban areas is linked to lower incidences of heart disease, obesity, diabetes, asthma, mental distress, and mortality rates. The decades-old Japanese practice of forest bathing or shinrin-yoku (which means “taking in the forest”) is believed to provide stress reduction, relaxation, and deeper insights into life.”

    Bryan E. Robinson Ph.D.

  • Chiquitita: The Resilience Message!

    8 de Maio de 2020 by

    “Resilience is the psychological quality that allows some people to be knocked down by the adversities of life and come back at least as strong as before. Rather than letting difficulties, traumatic events, or failure overcome them and drain their resolve, highly resilient people find a way to change course, emotionally heal, and continue moving toward their goals.”

  • Ouso Escrever and Alexandra

    7 de Maio de 2020 by

    “Self-awareness is an element of the other three components as well. It’s necessary for clarity in evaluating your strengths and (more to the point) your weaknesses: acknowledging when you’ve flubbed a presentation or when your golf game is off, without resorting to denial or blame. Authenticity also turns up in behavior: It requires acting in ways congruent with your own values and needs, even at the risk of criticism or rejection. And it’s necessary for close relationships, because intimacy cannot develop without openness and honesty.”

  • Mentally Strong Women

    5 de Maio de 2020 by

    “A woman’s mental strength can also be hindered by how society believes women should behave—in other words, “gender norms.” For example, think about the way people treat women for expressing their emotions.

    Studies show that male leaders who express anger often gain respect from subordinates. Female leaders, however, are more likely to be labeled “unstable” or “overly emotional” when they show anger. Clearly, there’s a double-standard.

    In addition, people are more likely to view men as leaders. In fact, studies show that when adults are asked to draw a picture of a leader, both men and women are more likely to draw a man.

    So how might these cultural expectations and stereotypes affect women’s mental strength? Well, it can lead to unhealthy habits, like downplaying their success or staying silent. In essence, women are often punished for stepping outside of their perceived gender roles, which can hinder them from breaking molds and succeeding as easily as men do.”

  • You Deserve Safety!

    4 de Maio de 2020 by

    “Narcissists can be charming, charismatic, seductive, exciting, and engaging. They can also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold, competitive, selfish, obnoxious, cruel, and vindictive. You can fall in love with their charming side and be destroyed by their dark side.

    They suffer from profound alienation, emptiness, powerlessness, and lack of meaning. Due to their extreme vulnerability, they crave power and vigilantly must control their environment, people around them, and their feelings. Displays of vulnerable feelings, such as fear, shame, or sadness are intolerable signs of weakness both in themselves and others.”

  • Pansexuality: Human Kingdom Diversity

    28 de Abril de 2020 by

    “The term pansexual was originally used by Sigmund Freud to define sexuality as the basic drive for all human interaction. The current usage of the term began to gain popularity in the late 1990s in an effort to be more inclusive of individuals who did not align with a gender binary, as a misconception that the term bisexual solely indicates an attraction to only two genders did (and still does) exist.”

  • Do You Date Emotionally Unavailable men? Here’s The Best Lesson You Can Take From This Dynamic.

    20 de Abril de 2020 by

    “You cannot heal the abandonment wounds until you allow yourself to fully experience your authentic feeling responses to the suffering of past abandonments and that which continues to play out in your present-day relationships. Acknowledge what you’ve gone through and what you’re currently experiencing in your relationships and other aspects of your life. Notice what you’re feeling in response to these concerns. And then be sure to breathe softly and deeply while centering your awareness within any feelings that arise.”

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