• Breakups: Don’t Blame Your Ex!

    26 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “The best partnerships might be an honest merging of ambivalences, two people who admit they each want conflicting things, a bunny and a buddy, brutal honesty and tactful kindness, and can laugh together about the predicament of trying to get that from one person for life.”

    Jeremy E. Sherman Ph.D.

  • What’s Healthy Narcissism?

    16 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “People with healthy narcissism have a quiet, comfortable confidence. They are aware of their strengths as well as their shortcomings, and view both as essential to their wholeness. They know they are not perfect, and have no expectations or intentions to be so. People with healthy egos view themselves as learners who are constantly growing, and are not at all seduced into trying to be better than others.”

    Sherrie Campbell

  • Let’s Rethink Our Participation in Dating Apps: Tinder Investigation.

    13 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “In times past, men and women tended to meet at work, through mutual friends, or at social venues such as church or sports clubs. In other words, their relationship was rooted in a pre-existing social ecology where others could generally be trusted. This could inhibit contemptible dating behavior as wrongdoers faced opprobrium from the pre-existing community.

    However, no such social ecology exists within the world of dating apps. On the contrary, some dating app users can hide under a cloak of anonymity or deceit. This can include deception about personal characteristics such as age or profession, as well as dishonesty regarding intentions.”

    by Rob Whitley, Ph.D.

  • Let’s Talk About “Situationships”?

    11 de Outubro de 2020 by

    What is a “situationship”? Considering all the possible labels that we are using now to define intimate relationships, a “situationship” is a relationship that hasn’t been define yet.

    by Alexandra Maria dos Santos

  • The Real Meaning of Stoicism

    10 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “Stoics place a lot of value on…values — your principles, what you use to guide your life, you deciding the type of person you want to be. These are different from “shoulds” and rules that you may inherit from your parents, your culture. They are chosen by you, and you are responsible for putting them into practice daily.

    The key here is again deciding what those values are; deciding and imaging the person you want to be and become, different from your parents, your siblings, those around you. You seeing yourself as the creator of your own present and future.”

    Robert Taibbi, L.C.S.W.,

  • You Had An Amazing First Date… But?!

    6 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “Many people worry about the dreaded first date. Dating is a universal stressor. This is because rejection comes with the territory. Fear of being rejected or even the fear of having to reject someone can be overwhelming. Mix in unpleasant past experiences and questionable self-esteem and you have a recipe for dating distress!”

    Chamin Ajjan MS, LCSW, ACT

  • October: Warm and Undying love

    2 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “When people rise up to a higher level of responsibility to self-observe and shift their attitudes and behaviors, the other person cannot help but shift their own. I sometimes refer to this as “changing the way we dance.”

    by Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W., and Charlie Bloom, M.S.W.

  • Decoding Women: Love, Timing and Why You Will Lose Us.

    21 de Setembro de 2020 by

    “I have heard many women ask if they should downplay their intelligence or success when first meeting a potential partner. Absolutely not. It is important to be proud of who you are, what you have accomplished, and what you stand for. Not everyone is threatened by the accomplishments of others, and it is important to find a partner who values you for you. Additionally, if we are more explicit about what we are capable of, perhaps we can shift the dynamic and how people view powerful women.”

    Marisa T. Cohen Ph.D., CPLC

  • Long Distant Relationships: How to Sustain and When to Call it Quits?

    11 de Setembro de 2020 by

    “In today´s world, many partners live apart. Not just in different zip codes, but in different cities and time zones, sometimes in different parts of the world. Job opportunities, educational aspirations, and family responsibilities often separate couples for extended periods of time, relegating their communication to long distance methods of maintaining relational quality and intimacy. In fact, some couples have always lived apart. The prevalence of online dating offers access to a global pool of potential suitors, which can result in matches made in heaven geographically challenged on earth.”

    Wendy L. Patrick, JD, Ph.D.

  • Father Complex: Are You Emotionally Broken?

    4 de Setembro de 2020 by

    “Daddy issues aren’t really about you. They’re about your dad. Too often women are given the label of having “daddy issues,” as though they’re the ones to blame for their wounds. Being told you have daddy issues can bring up shame and hurt. But really, your dad is responsible for not meeting your needs. If your dad had issues and wasn’t able to be emotionally available, why wouldn’t you be wounded? Daddy issues are nothing to be ashamed of. You’re not defective or damaged. Your needs weren’t met, and you now have healing to do.”

    by Caitlin Cantor, LCSW, CST

  • The Fifteen Types Of Women That You Should Avoid to Have a Long-term Relationship.

    31 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “The more time a person invests emotionally in a relationship (even an overall negative one), the more a person will persevere to try to make it work (even though it hasn’t been working, resulting in a tricky cycle). And because there is still basic attachment and love in such relationships, any self-awareness, any intellectual truths, are pushed to the side, and their choices become heavily ruled by their emotions.”

    Madeleine A. Fugère Ph.D.

  • The Bomb Men: The Sixteen Types of Man That You Should Avoid Dating.

    27 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “With few exceptions, human beings want to be emotionally and physically close to each other. Life seems better shared. And yet no area of human endeavor seems more fraught with challenges and difficulties than our relationships with others. Relationships, like most things in life worth having, require effort.”

    By Thomas L. Cory, Ph.D.

  • Two Hundred Years of 1820’s Liberal Revolution: When Portugal Was a French And a British “Colonie”.

    24 de Agosto de 2020 by

    Contrary to what has been published today in the Portuguese media, we are not celebrating 200 years of a new national constitution. Which only occurred in 1822. We are celebrating the end of more than one decade of French and then British dominance. We are mourning the loss of Brazil as part of our international territory (1822), and mourning the achievements we had as a liberal nation which were captured and ridiculed in the XX and XXI century, by conservative reactionaryism and small minds, fueling lobbies interests and perpetuation of inequalities.

  • My Relationships Don’t Last, What’s Wrong with Me?

    20 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “When we genuinely trust another person, the dynamics flow more smoothly and openly. A good relationship is when two people acknowledge each other’s past, support each other’s presence, and love each other enough to nurture their future. The most basic and influential way to connect with another person is to listen.”

    Brian Nadon

  • Loyal, Brave and True by Christina Aguilera

    17 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

  • Let’s Talk About Marriage And Have Kids Without Sounding an Ultimatum?

    15 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “One study published in Menopause Journal titled, “Extended maternal age at birth of last child and women’s longevity in the Long Life Family Study,” reported that women who birthed their last child after they were 33 saw a “significant association for older maternal age,” and had greater odds of living to 95.

    Previous findings, from The New England Centenarian Study, found that women who gave birth after age 40 “were four times more likely to live to 100 or longer than were women who gave birth at younger ages.

    A 2018 Pew study, “They’re Waiting Longer…” points out women ages 40-44 who have never been married have had a baby. Pew reassures those who are bombarded with questions that although women are having babies later, “Women are more likely now to become mothers than they were a decade ago.””

    Susan Newman Ph.D.

  • Healing and Staying Healthy After a Breakup!

    13 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “Being able to see the ways in which you grow after a breakup doesn’t take away the sadness, pain, or feelings of loss. But it can help increase your resilience and make it easier to bounce back from the experience. Some of us have more difficulty looking for these signs of growth than others, and for some of us it takes longer to get there. But if you start looking, you’ll very likely start to see some ways that you have grown in the process. And that growth is going to be part of the self that you move forward with into the rest of your life.”

    F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W.

  • How To Get Over Someone You Thought Would Be Your Person Forever?

    8 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “Women in particular typically “tend and befriend” others, as an evolved survival mechanism. If women are unable to maintain a relationship or friendship, they may feel disappointed in themselves, not just their partners or friends. The inability to keep a relationship on track, even if the other person is to blame, can be perceived as a personal failure.

    Eventually, the loss will begin to feel more like your history, not your present. In fact, research suggests that relationships that are unsatisfying or marred with unpleasant interactions are worse for your emotional well-being than an absence of romance or friendships.”

    Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D.

  • “Ringo, I Love You”: They Thought Cher Was a Man!

    1 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “The song is completely innocuous. However, Cher’s vocals on the song made many people assume she was a man. Because of this, people interpreted “Ringo, I Love You” as a gay love song. Subsequently, “Ringo, I Love You” was banned from the majority of radio stations. The song was a commercial flop.”

  • Want a Satisfying Sexual Life? Girls, Let’s Lube!

    31 de Julho de 2020 by

    In both women and men, lube enhances skin sensitivity to erotic touch. Many women of all ages don’t self-lubricate sufficiently for comfortable intercourse. And many post-menopausal women suffer chronic vaginal dryness. As a result, many sexologists encourage couples of all ages to use lube every time.

    Girls, let’s lube!

  • How Men Confuse Sexual Attraction with Emotional Connection?

    25 de Julho de 2020 by

    “All of us have unresolved childhood hurts due to betrayal, anger, manipulation, or abuse. Unconsciously, we seek healing through our partner. And we try to achieve this healing by bonding with someone we sense might hurt us in similar ways to how we were hurt as children, in the hope that we can then convince him or her to finally love and accept us.

    Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which remind us of how we were wounded the most.”

    Ken Page L.C.S.W.

  • Motherhood: Are Children for me?

    10 de Julho de 2020 by

    “A society that properly loved children would know that the single greatest contribution to children’s welfare is the removal of the idea that everyone should automatically have them. A good society would give equal prestige to childless and childful states. We best honor children, the born and the unborn, by accepting that parenting should never be the automatic choice – just as the wisest way to ensure that people will have happy marriages is to destigmatize the single state.”

    by School of Life

  • Social Media: The Short Cut Path to Become a Narcissist

    8 de Julho de 2020 by

    “Unfortunately, most of the individuals don’t understand that social platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and common dating apps. Such as Tinder or OkCupid are made to addict our brain and change the way we relate and perceive relationships. The usage of algorithms is a common way that those platforms use to manipulate your emotions and needs. The neuroscience behind social media is to make you crave more, more validation, more attention, more praise, and for that reason, in your feeds tend to appear more the posts of people who you add recently to testify your compatibility.”

  • The Power Of Real Friendships

    6 de Julho de 2020 by

    “Be there for friends when they face difficult times. Recognize that even if your presence and a warm hug are all that you can offer, these gestures speak volumes to a friend in need.”

    Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D.

  • What Do We Want From Men?

    3 de Julho de 2020 by

    “Women don’t need partners who invest all their energy in trying to prove how strong, manly, masculine, macho, or heroic they are. They just want men who are willing to meet them where they are and treat them fairly and equitably — and are able to make sure that the romantic spark keeps burning.”

    Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.

  • Penis Size, does it Really Matter?

    2 de Julho de 2020 by

    At ancient cultures, like Roman and Greek, if we take a look at how male statuettes are made, their penises are surprisingly small with clear evidence that what matters is the body structure and testicles form. In this period, virility and potency were centered in the testicles, and the penis was only the instrument of sperm passage for fertilization. This idea that small is perfection lasted till renaissance.

  • What Babies Can Teach Us About Love and Life?

    30 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Babies are soft. Anyone looking at them can see the tender, fragile skin and know it for the rose-leaf softness that invites a finger’s touch. But when you live with them and love them, you feel the softness going inward, the round-cheeked flesh wobbly as custard, the boneless splay of the tiny hands.”

    Diana Gabaldon

  • Are You Looking For a Penis Or a Real Man?

    28 de Junho de 2020 by

    “To master the terror of another letdown, we go cold, we respond sarcastically to sincere compliments and insist with aggression that they don’t really care for us at all, thereby ensuring that they eventually won’t.

    To escape these debilitating cycles, we need to accept that we’re searching for someone to love us while wrestling with the most fateful of background suspicions: that we don’t in any way deserve love.”

    School of Life

  • Let It Go Aka Freedom

    26 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Past hurts and old injustices have a way of keeping us stuck in our tracks, unable to move forward or experience joy. It can take a radical reboot to get past yesterday.

    As your skill at mindfulness increases, you will, by definition, get past the past.”

  • This Is How It Feels: Narcissistic Father’s

    21 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm, but the harm (that they cause) does not interest them. Or they do not see it, or they justify it because they are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves.” —T.S. Eliot

  • “I’m Done!” – The Perils of Infatuation

    20 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Levitan quotes the research of psychologist Dorothy Tennov who found that the duration of infatuation typically lasts at most “between approximately 18 months and three years.” Circumstances like a long-distance relationship or chronic relationship insecurity may artificially extend the tingling phenomenon, at the cost of delaying the shift either into a departure from the relationship or into commitment to a mature and reliable love partnership.”

  • Bae, Your Family Drive Me Nuts!

    19 de Junho de 2020 by

    Does your boyfriend or girlfriend’s family drive you crazy? Come to think of it, I don’t know anyone who’s family doesn’t drive them nuts. Let’s be honest, we all have family issues. It’s okay. Just laugh at another funny barbie video where Barb shows us what lengths she is willing to go to maintain some form of sanity.

  • Sexual and Intimacy Anorexia is Abuse!

    18 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Although still stigmatized in our culture, sex addiction has steadily gained recognition in the public consciousness over the past decade, resulting in a host of treatment centers, rehabs, support groups and specialized therapists. What is less talked about, but equally devastating, is “sexual anorexia,” a concept that refers to the compulsive avoidance of sexual nourishment and intimacy.”

    Alexandra Katehakis Ph.D., MFT

  • One Year Of Ouso Escrever

    17 de Junho de 2020 by

    “The more we see love as an ethereal concept, the more we lose sight of the specific behaviors that make love an active expression of our feelings for others. When we see love as a product of action, however, we can look into ourselves and our relationships with fresh eyes and examine how loving we truly are.”

  • Narcissists And The Silent Treatment

    16 de Junho de 2020 by

    “The silent treatment, even if it’s brief, activates the anterior cingulate cortex – the part of the brain that detects physical pain. The initial pain is the same, regardless of whether the exclusion is by partners, strangers, close friends or enemies.

    The silent treatment happens when one partner pressures the other with requests, criticism or complaints and the other responds with silence and emotional distance.”

  • Why Break Up With a Narcissist Isn’t a Normal Breakup?

    12 de Junho de 2020 by

    “A strong you to a narcissist individual means that they are less than. And they can never ever be less than. They are powerless when their whole life revolves around getting power over other people. Feeling a deep sense of powerlessness in their childhood is what turned them into a narcissist in the first place, remember. You’re poking at a core wound. That’s why it’s so scary for them.”

  • Slow Down To Wake Up!

    11 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Being in nature is our opportunity to check in with ourselves and listen to our bodies and minds. We may realize that our mind chatter is so intense that the stillness of nature is actually stressing us out. We may be exhausted once we’re at our retreat destination. All of this is important information that will help us take better care of our minds and bodies.”

  • Time Out From Dating!

    7 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Relationships can be a source of personal growth and shared satisfaction. Relationships bring out our best when we are thriving with one another. Even in times of trouble, when they are based on solid foundations, and partners are committed to one another, relationships can be a source of strength and an opportunity for mutual growth. At other times, relationships are destructive, causing more harm than good and presenting few opportunities for shared constructive change. Dysfunctional relationships are akin to an addiction.”

    Source: Psychology Today

  • Amalia Rodrigues By Cuca Roseta

    4 de Junho de 2020 by

    And then there’s the fado, Portugal’s most famous musical form. It’s forever associated with the tremulous voice of Amalia Rodrigues (1920-1999), who appeared dressed in a black shawl to sing dramatic, minor-key ballads in a remarkable voice, sounding like she was on the verge of tears. But for some, it’s a sound forever tarnished by its association with fascism. After the fall of the dictatorship in 1974, many on the Portuguese left saw the fado as something shameful. It was seen, at best, as a conservative outlet for national misery, at worst as an authorised voice for Catholic fascism.

  • “The Dawn Of The Dating Apocalypse”

    2 de Junho de 2020 by

    Our current hookup culture and the rise of online dating apps have made emotional unavailability a new normal (Garcia, et. al 2012). That’s why we see so many people feeling entitled to all the benefits of one intimate relationship without actually being in one. Older and younger generations are becoming accustomed to the idea of having another date or rebound at their fingertips, without doing the inner work of healing from past relationships or their self-esteem.

  • Between Good or Bad: Choose To Be Present Within Yourself!

    31 de Maio de 2020 by

    Think about this: “Whether it’s society’s pressure, our culture, or the drive to try and make everyone happy around us, we all face obstacles to going deeper within our reality. This can leave us feeling unfulfilled, anxious, and depressed, searching for meaning outside ourselves, and trying anything to develop a real connection. Many of us feel… Ler mais

  • Why is this Adele Song So Educational?

    27 de Maio de 2020 by

    “There are some people who refuse to believe that it is their problem that they cannot deeply and consistently love someone who loves them. They convince themselves that if they do not love someone, it is because it is the other person’s fault. They believe that there is a perfect person out there that they will find it easy to love. Each time they become infatuated with someone new, they idealize this person. Then as they inevitably discover the person’s flaws, they become disillusioned, and devalue, and discard them.”

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