• Why Can’t You Find a Partner?

    30 de Outubro de 2021 by

    By removing your body and mind from what feels comfortable, you are opening new doors, new possibilities, and trust me, looking at kindhearted individuals will be a brand newish thrilling experience.

  • Should You Talk About Your Past With Your Partner? Yes, but Not as You Think!

    26 de Outubro de 2021 by

    “Having boundaries doesn’t make you uptight. Feeling uncomfortable when someone overshares doesn’t make you an uncaring person. Everyone has boundaries. Acknowledging, setting, and protecting yours is a kind of self-care. When others recognize and don’t try to cross them, it is a sign of respect. Healthy relationships require sharing yourself with others, but they also require boundaries between what is a comfortable level of closeness and what is TMI.”

    Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T.

  • Letting You Go

    10 de Outubro de 2021 by

    ‘Saying goodbye allows us to put words to feelings, shape how we remember someone, codify our choices, and frame distinct periods of time. In short, goodbyes give us a sense of closure as we move into the next phases of our lives.’ – Jo-Ann Finkelstein Ph.D.

  • She Remembers

    5 de Outubro de 2021 by

    The last goodbye kiss, is this our goodbye? 
    You and I the forging force of lovers 
    with so much unsaid and undone. 
    I remember. I will remember. 

  • Are You an Intimidating Woman? No! Just a Fragile and Stronger Human Being.

    28 de Setembro de 2021 by

    The most rewarding experiences come from different people who can align themselves in life together. Remember, perhaps tomorrow we might not be here, so as long as we are, be sure to surpass yourself to the point where the one you love will continue his or her’s prosperity even in your absence. Because you nurtured their individuality and saw who they were despite their ‘malfunctions’.

    We are humans. We are fragile beings.

  • I Wanna Love You… But I Don’t by Ben Platt

    26 de Agosto de 2021 by

    We are indoctrinated since a young age by movies, songs, and role models that love is an automatic response. That we must find the perfect person, the soulmate, “the one”, and everything will flow. We aren’t taught or teaching our children how to deal with frustration. Different points of view, general differences on how to approach daily life matters.

    Sadly, the rule now is if there is a difference, then the other person isn’t the right fit for us.

  • IF You Are a Woman, Never Make This Mistake!

    21 de Agosto de 2021 by

    Men and women are spending too much time online and not cultivating their relationships correctly. The other side of the coin is that now everything is allowed and normalized, leading to permissive behaviors and blaming the uncomfortable partner for calling out those behaviors.

  • How to Transform Your Relationship with Dismissive Avoidant Partner?

    13 de Agosto de 2021 by

    Is every relationship worthy of saving if both partners are willing to do the work? Myth or true? The general rule is 90% of intimate relationships are worth saving. But they tend to fail because, over time, human needs aren’t being met, attachment styles are getting in the way, and finally, a profound misinterpretation of each other love language. 

  • The Art of Setting Boundaries in Intimate Relationships

    7 de Agosto de 2021 by

    Permissiveness is the antidote to desire, emotional attraction, and intimate connection. As Gottman points out, in a committed relationship, we should maintain boundaries in our other relationships as a way to maintain not only the privacy of our commitment but also protect our partners. 

  • Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg

    23 de Julho de 2021 by

    As Rosenberg explains, in a world and culture in which silence cult is incited, judging individuals harshly for exposing their needs is our daily cup of tea. We often get scared and shocked when someone reveals parts of themselves essential to bond correctly with us (the real vulnerability). Everyone wants to possess the courage but is fearful of doing so.

  • Farming and Mental Health

    18 de Julho de 2021 by

    Agriculture is affected by multiple factors. Climatic adversity, market prices, or political uncertainties. Farm bankruptcies, demanding workloads, lack of social support from cooperatives, and finally, relational conflicts or sabotaging behaviors based on envy from family members or companies managers that provide support services to farmers. Mental health risks among this population are well-documented. However, protective factors remain somehow unknown. (Liang et al., 2021)

  • What Can Gavin James’s Song “Sober” Teach About Us And Love?

    10 de Julho de 2021 by

    It is impressive and enthralling how music can transport us to already experienced moments, how it can comfort us in painful moments such as a breakup or the loss of a loved one. Or to celebrate special events.
    But, shall I ask, how often do we understand the message and lesson behind the lyric? What can a song teach about us, others, love, and relationships?

  • Online Romance and Cybercrime

    6 de Julho de 2021 by

    Online romance scams can happen on every online platform. But now besides regular dating apps, Instagram and even Facebook is the favorite place to scammers actions. Also, don’t think that only naive people or uneducated people fall into these schemes, quite the opposite.

    Why does this happen? First of all, every human being, when seeking relationships, seek trait variety. In the evolutionary aspect of our species, we want the best genes for our offspring. Therefore, if online dating opens the gate of a wider range of possible partners from different nationalities, of course, we want to try that possibility.

  • Rebecca’s Syndrome and The Phantom Ex

    2 de Julho de 2021 by

    According to Gottman (2019), true commitment means

    that you create a wall around you and your partner with an open window between you. This wall around the two of you separates you from others in terms of your deepest emotional and physical connections (…) Also, if we’re committed, we have given this person everything we have to offer. There’s nothing left over for another lover. That’s a risky decision, but it’s essential. Without this level of commitment, love will not last. (pp.40, 41)

  • The Power of Saying No!

    13 de Junho de 2021 by

    The purpose of learning how and to say NO is the synonym of stopping yourself from putting the value of your life in the hands of people with doormat brains. Judgment doesn’t exist per se. Because someone who doesn’t know who or she is is incapable of judging others. Think about this when you are ruminating about what others think about you.

  • Children and Education: The Emotional Understanding of Being Present for Your Child.

    9 de Junho de 2021 by

    Parents should be emotional regulators and the prefrontal cortex of their children. Children’s prefrontal cortex will only develop between the age of 5 and 8, where you will see a major improvement in working memory, planning, selective attention, and inhibition…

    The way you interact with them from a young age will be how they will interact with others in the future. So be wise, be present, with the understanding that you are responsible for the impact your children will have in the world and somebody else’s lives.

  • He is Not your Guy, If?

    5 de Junho de 2021 by

    Even though this might sound like an advertising quote, for men or even women in the dating realm is important they stop making assumptions about somebody else behavior. Getting real about your needs and wantings within an intimate relationship is the first step or key to move forward in the direction you want to be. Because the truth is knowing core needs or the requirements to feel safe in a relationship or by yourself isn’t only attractive. It will work as a selective process between who deserves to stay in your life from who doesn’t.

  • 75 Years Of Cher

    20 de Maio de 2021 by

    “No matter what people say about you, and people have said some pretty terrible things about me, you just don’t give up.” Cher

  • Let’s Talk About Financial Abuse And Why It Matters.

    15 de Maio de 2021 by

    Be it in intimate relationships or company environments, financial and power abuse is the daily bread of many people’s lives. It is serious, detrimental, impactful, and can lead to suicide if the person doesn’t have the necessary support in all life’s spheres to recover from pressure. While it is true that the way we deal with difficulties reveals a lot about our personality, it is also true that law and the system itself aren’t formed to protect people, quite the opposite.

  • The Art of Oral Sex: Beyond Excitement an Opportunity to Bond.

    11 de Maio de 2021 by

    Allow yourself to experience the best sex and life possible, and make sure that you choose the right person to do that with you. More than chasing dangerous excitement or amazing bodies, look for someone who can mirror your necessities by assisting. And “wear your shoes” in times of need.

    The art of oral sex is the same as having a fulfilling relationship with your partner. It requires the whole of you to make it work.

  • Forgiveness? Think Twice Before You Decide to Forgive

    30 de Março de 2021 by

    Forgiveness is powerful but before advising it to anyone or even you decide to forgive someone, think about the diversity of injuries and how you or the other person you are counseling is feeling. We need to call people out and stop being a society of conniving where in the blink of a blind eye, people are hurt constantly. The only way development and social equality will happen by starting to call people out because of their bad actions. But also by stepping into the role of being an active citizen. And this can’t happen by silent your voice.

  • Head Games and Yo-Yo Relationships: Spotting and Avoiding Toxicity

    20 de Março de 2021 by

    Although the word toxic is becoming a usual label everywhere and for everyone, we should be careful not only to use it. But also correctly identify what is toxic by running away from it or avoiding altogether in the first place.

    Head games or yo-yo relationships are a typical example of toxicity in the dating/intimate universe.

  • Be human, be the woman – March 8th

    8 de Março de 2021 by

    “We are most helpful to women in other countries when we are a model of change, when we share organizational strategies, help call international attention to abuses, lobby for international organizations to classify violations of women’s rights as human rights violations, contribute money to their gender equality campaigns, respond to their “action alerts,” compare stories of struggle, and respect their right to be the architects of their own change. We are least ineffective when we try to tell them what they must do and how they should do it as we don’t usually understand the relevant cultural contexts.”

    Shawn Meghan Burn, Ph.D

  • Dating Life: Why Activation Energy Matters?

    7 de Março de 2021 by

    “Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and conventional wisdom both suggest that love is a fundamental human need. Most people meet their significant others through their social circles or work/school functions. However, these pools can be relatively shallow. In the search for a potential date, more and more people are switching to less traditional methods.

    The popularity of online dating is being driven by several things, but a major factor is time. Online dating presents an effective solution to a serious problem.

    Browsing profiles isn’t nearly as time-consuming (or daunting) as mixing with people in a social context. Statistics suggest that about 1 in 5 relationships begin online nowadays. It’s estimated that by 2040, 70% of us will have met our significant other online.

    The problem with a lot of online dating applications is that they don’t really work. Before you throw caution to the wind and empty your wallet into the pockets of an online app with the reckless abandon of a love-struck teenager, there are a few things you should know.”

    Ryan Anderson, Ph.D.

  • How To Let Them Go Gracefully?

    27 de Fevereiro de 2021 by

    “Holding on to pain doesn’t fix anything. Replaying the past over and over again doesn’t change it, and wishing things were different doesn’t make it so. In some cases, especially when it comes to the past, all you can do is accept whatever it is you’re holding on to and then let it go. That’s how everything changes. You have to let go of what is hurting you, even if it feels almost impossible. Deciding to hold on to the past will hold you back from creating a strong sense of self — a self that isn’t defined by your past, but rather by who you want to be.”

    Ilene Strauss Cohen Ph.D.

  • How To Mend a Broken Heart?

    16 de Fevereiro de 2021 by

    “By gradually re-involving ourselves with someone who is capable of being consistently caring, we are soothed. The pleasure and ease of the connection restore our hope and faith that had been battered. The comfort of a loving partnership bathes our hearts in loving-kindness. When at long last, we exchange love and care with someone who is safe, consistent, respectful, and fully present with us, the depth of appreciation of their trustworthiness heals our broken heart. Then we can live in gratitude for the love that has been hard-won.”

  • Let’s Rethink Valentine’s Day Using Gaugin.

    13 de Fevereiro de 2021 by

    Being single shouldn’t be extremely frustrating, especially when everyone around you seems to have a lovebird by their side. If you’ve sworn off Valentine’s Day, I would like to ask you to reconsider. After all, you can make it a great occasion all on your own!

  • Why Shouldn’t You Care About What People Think About You?

    8 de Fevereiro de 2021 by

    “Some people will disapprove of you, of course. No matter who you are, some people will disapprove. Oftentimes, such people are in the business of looking down on everyone. They judge everybody unfavorably because of their own emotional needs. They will consider some people not well-enough educated, or from the wrong background, or too something or other—not classy enough for them, perhaps. Such a person—even if he or she is a family member—is not worth paying attention to.”

    By Fredric Neuman M.D.

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