• Blissful Were Your Kisses.

    27 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “Sensuality is the ability to perceive sensations from something that happens to or comes into contact with your body. It is the quality and skill to get you there, be present and feel it fully. It means you actively inhabit your body. Sensuality is not only sensations of a sexual nature. Think about it.”

    Adena Bank Lees, LCSW

  • International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women and Men: 25 November

    25 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “In the run up to International Women’s Day last week, the Diversity Council of Australia (DCA) published a list of 8 common myths about workplace sexual harassment. One of these myths is the belief that sexual harassment only happens to straight women, when in reality it happens to people of all genders and sexual orientations.

    According to report by Rebecca DiGriolamo in the The Advertiser (Adelaide), nearly 1 in 2 complaints of sexual harassment accepted by the commission in 2017/2018 were made by men.

    Sexual harassment against men at work is more common than most people think. Research by the Australian Human Rights Commission has found that 23% of women and 16% of men experienced sexual harassment at work in Australia in 2018.”

    by Australian Men’s Health Forum

  • Are You Over-Focusing on “Connection?”

    22 de Novembro de 2020 by

    Like cognitive neuroscience teach us, when it comes to intimate relationships, we should choose “boring” and not “over the top” candidates. Not because we are picky or mean, but because “the spark” isn’t necessarily a good thing or a reliable source of information if someone will be the right partner for you. “Chemistry” is a cocktail of lust and danger that wrings the dopamine out of your neurotransmitters.

  • Let’s Talk About Sex And The Woman’s Role to Liberate Men.

    20 de Novembro de 2020 by

    In times of so much online interactions and technology trance, we need emotional educators, people who are emotionally free from lobbies and patriarchal ideas. We need to educate our children and set them free from intoxicating ideologies and behaviors. We need people who are real people and women who can lead and show the way. Forgetting unnecessary and outdated feminism by rescuing the art of sensuality, and embrace the power that they can choose who they want, when, where, and how. And the lives they want to live also by stop being the Instagram shelf women.

  • SPS, Attachment Styles, Relationships and Breakups

    18 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “It is critical to understand that sensitivity is a temperament—an aspect of personality, such as introversion or extroversion, which is believed to be innate rather than learned. It has been estimated that 15 to 20 percent of the population has a Highly Sensitive temperament. It occurs about equally for men and women. Being an HSP is not considered to be a disorder or malfunction. Unfortunately, in spite of being a significant percentage of the population, HSPs are still not well understood, and their particular challenges are not often recognized.”

    Dianne Grande Ph.D.

  • Being a Highly Sensitive Person, It Isn’t What You Think!

    16 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “There are biological reasons for all the components of this trait. An HSP’s brain is wired differently and the nervous system is highly sensitive with a lower threshold for action (2). This hyper-excitability contributes to increased emotional reactivity, a lower threshold for sensory information (e.g. bothered by noise, or too much light), and increased awareness of subtleties (e.g. quick to notice odors).”

    Marwa Azab Ph.D.

  • The Beautiful Art Of Flirting

    15 de Novembro de 2020 by

    The beautiful art of flirting helps us to realize our insecurities towards other’s approaches, destroy emotional barriers, and believe that exists, beautiful people in this world.

  • The Neurological Effects of Cycling

    14 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “How can aerobic exercise and cycling prevent brain diseases? The answer is simple. Every time we do aerobic exercise, we increase our level of blood flow to the entire body, including the brain. Also, we should understand and accept that to age properly look after the levels of hormones is imperative. Cycling, for example, can enhance the production of neurons but also stimulate the production of dopamine, serotonin, and ignite positively hippocampus structures, which plays an important role in memory and spatial navigation.”

  • 11.11 – Celebrating Single’s Day in Portugal

    11 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “It’s important to recognize why one is single, whether being single is a choice or arises from unconscious factors (and if so what those factors are likely to be), to what extent social influence plays a role in relationship status, and, if partnered, whether one is genuinely interested in being in a relationship. As stigma about singlehood decreases, more people will end up being single, more people will choose being single out of a secure attachment style, and (hopefully) fewer people will be partnered or single for the wrong reasons. Models of secure singlehood will become more defined socially, better understood psychologically, and happy single people will be able to live openly, without having to deal with bias.”

    Grant Hilary Brenner MD, FAPA

  • Breakups: He Asked Me To Be Friends, What Should I Do?

    6 de Novembro de 2020 by

    “When you go through a breakup, especially one that’s unexpected, your body may register it as an emergency and go into “fight-or-flight” mode. Being in this state triggers the release of hormones that can prepare your body to stay and deal with a threat or to run away to safety. It can also trigger a rapid heartbeat or trembling.

    Our muscles tense, we lose our appetite, we may experience [gastrointestinal] disruption, and we’re likely to have trouble falling asleep. Being in this physically hyper-vigilant state over a period of time can lead to headaches, stomachaches, and muscle soreness”

    by Dr. Kristin Bianchi

  • Exercise: Hack Your Behavior!

    1 de Novembro de 2020 by

    ” Freud believed that all humans experience something he called “repetition compulsion,” which he saw as a biological need to repeat old behaviors. Neuroscientists have been finding evidence in recent years to back him up on this, suggesting that that neuropathways set themselves up in our brains and push us to keep doing the same behavior.”

    F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W.

  • Don’t Seek The “click”, Seek Real Lasting Love!

    30 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “Seeking true love is a difficult path, so any assistance available is appreciated by most. Whether you are good looking or not, wealthy or not, young or old, finding a date or finding long-term love is a shared goal that requires you to put yourself out there at risk of personal rejection and humiliation—nothing many of us enjoy.”

    Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.

  • Breakups: Don’t Blame Your Ex!

    26 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “The best partnerships might be an honest merging of ambivalences, two people who admit they each want conflicting things, a bunny and a buddy, brutal honesty and tactful kindness, and can laugh together about the predicament of trying to get that from one person for life.”

    Jeremy E. Sherman Ph.D.

  • What’s Healthy Narcissism?

    16 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “People with healthy narcissism have a quiet, comfortable confidence. They are aware of their strengths as well as their shortcomings, and view both as essential to their wholeness. They know they are not perfect, and have no expectations or intentions to be so. People with healthy egos view themselves as learners who are constantly growing, and are not at all seduced into trying to be better than others.”

    Sherrie Campbell

  • Let’s Rethink Our Participation in Dating Apps: Tinder Investigation.

    13 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “In times past, men and women tended to meet at work, through mutual friends, or at social venues such as church or sports clubs. In other words, their relationship was rooted in a pre-existing social ecology where others could generally be trusted. This could inhibit contemptible dating behavior as wrongdoers faced opprobrium from the pre-existing community.

    However, no such social ecology exists within the world of dating apps. On the contrary, some dating app users can hide under a cloak of anonymity or deceit. This can include deception about personal characteristics such as age or profession, as well as dishonesty regarding intentions.”

    by Rob Whitley, Ph.D.

  • Let’s Talk About “Situationships”?

    11 de Outubro de 2020 by

    What is a “situationship”? Considering all the possible labels that we are using now to define intimate relationships, a “situationship” is a relationship that hasn’t been define yet.

    by Alexandra Maria dos Santos

  • The Real Meaning of Stoicism

    10 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “Stoics place a lot of value on…values — your principles, what you use to guide your life, you deciding the type of person you want to be. These are different from “shoulds” and rules that you may inherit from your parents, your culture. They are chosen by you, and you are responsible for putting them into practice daily.

    The key here is again deciding what those values are; deciding and imaging the person you want to be and become, different from your parents, your siblings, those around you. You seeing yourself as the creator of your own present and future.”

    Robert Taibbi, L.C.S.W.,

  • You Had An Amazing First Date… But?!

    6 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “Many people worry about the dreaded first date. Dating is a universal stressor. This is because rejection comes with the territory. Fear of being rejected or even the fear of having to reject someone can be overwhelming. Mix in unpleasant past experiences and questionable self-esteem and you have a recipe for dating distress!”

    Chamin Ajjan MS, LCSW, ACT

  • October: Warm and Undying love

    2 de Outubro de 2020 by

    “When people rise up to a higher level of responsibility to self-observe and shift their attitudes and behaviors, the other person cannot help but shift their own. I sometimes refer to this as “changing the way we dance.”

    by Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W., and Charlie Bloom, M.S.W.

  • Decoding Women: Love, Timing and Why You Will Lose Us.

    21 de Setembro de 2020 by

    “I have heard many women ask if they should downplay their intelligence or success when first meeting a potential partner. Absolutely not. It is important to be proud of who you are, what you have accomplished, and what you stand for. Not everyone is threatened by the accomplishments of others, and it is important to find a partner who values you for you. Additionally, if we are more explicit about what we are capable of, perhaps we can shift the dynamic and how people view powerful women.”

    Marisa T. Cohen Ph.D., CPLC

  • Long Distant Relationships: How to Sustain and When to Call it Quits?

    11 de Setembro de 2020 by

    “In today´s world, many partners live apart. Not just in different zip codes, but in different cities and time zones, sometimes in different parts of the world. Job opportunities, educational aspirations, and family responsibilities often separate couples for extended periods of time, relegating their communication to long distance methods of maintaining relational quality and intimacy. In fact, some couples have always lived apart. The prevalence of online dating offers access to a global pool of potential suitors, which can result in matches made in heaven geographically challenged on earth.”

    Wendy L. Patrick, JD, Ph.D.

  • Father Complex: Are You Emotionally Broken?

    4 de Setembro de 2020 by

    “Daddy issues aren’t really about you. They’re about your dad. Too often women are given the label of having “daddy issues,” as though they’re the ones to blame for their wounds. Being told you have daddy issues can bring up shame and hurt. But really, your dad is responsible for not meeting your needs. If your dad had issues and wasn’t able to be emotionally available, why wouldn’t you be wounded? Daddy issues are nothing to be ashamed of. You’re not defective or damaged. Your needs weren’t met, and you now have healing to do.”

    by Caitlin Cantor, LCSW, CST

  • The Fifteen Types Of Women That You Should Avoid to Have a Long-term Relationship.

    31 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “The more time a person invests emotionally in a relationship (even an overall negative one), the more a person will persevere to try to make it work (even though it hasn’t been working, resulting in a tricky cycle). And because there is still basic attachment and love in such relationships, any self-awareness, any intellectual truths, are pushed to the side, and their choices become heavily ruled by their emotions.”

    Madeleine A. Fugère Ph.D.

  • The Bomb Men: The Sixteen Types of Man That You Should Avoid Dating.

    27 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “With few exceptions, human beings want to be emotionally and physically close to each other. Life seems better shared. And yet no area of human endeavor seems more fraught with challenges and difficulties than our relationships with others. Relationships, like most things in life worth having, require effort.”

    By Thomas L. Cory, Ph.D.

  • Two Hundred Years of 1820’s Liberal Revolution: When Portugal Was a French And a British “Colonie”.

    24 de Agosto de 2020 by

    Contrary to what has been published today in the Portuguese media, we are not celebrating 200 years of a new national constitution. Which only occurred in 1822. We are celebrating the end of more than one decade of French and then British dominance. We are mourning the loss of Brazil as part of our international territory (1822), and mourning the achievements we had as a liberal nation which were captured and ridiculed in the XX and XXI century, by conservative reactionaryism and small minds, fueling lobbies interests and perpetuation of inequalities.

  • My Relationships Don’t Last, What’s Wrong with Me?

    20 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “When we genuinely trust another person, the dynamics flow more smoothly and openly. A good relationship is when two people acknowledge each other’s past, support each other’s presence, and love each other enough to nurture their future. The most basic and influential way to connect with another person is to listen.”

    Brian Nadon

  • Loyal, Brave and True by Christina Aguilera

    17 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

  • Let’s Talk About Marriage And Have Kids Without Sounding an Ultimatum?

    15 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “One study published in Menopause Journal titled, “Extended maternal age at birth of last child and women’s longevity in the Long Life Family Study,” reported that women who birthed their last child after they were 33 saw a “significant association for older maternal age,” and had greater odds of living to 95.

    Previous findings, from The New England Centenarian Study, found that women who gave birth after age 40 “were four times more likely to live to 100 or longer than were women who gave birth at younger ages.

    A 2018 Pew study, “They’re Waiting Longer…” points out women ages 40-44 who have never been married have had a baby. Pew reassures those who are bombarded with questions that although women are having babies later, “Women are more likely now to become mothers than they were a decade ago.””

    Susan Newman Ph.D.

  • Healing and Staying Healthy After a Breakup!

    13 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “Being able to see the ways in which you grow after a breakup doesn’t take away the sadness, pain, or feelings of loss. But it can help increase your resilience and make it easier to bounce back from the experience. Some of us have more difficulty looking for these signs of growth than others, and for some of us it takes longer to get there. But if you start looking, you’ll very likely start to see some ways that you have grown in the process. And that growth is going to be part of the self that you move forward with into the rest of your life.”

    F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W.

  • How To Get Over Someone You Thought Would Be Your Person Forever?

    8 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “Women in particular typically “tend and befriend” others, as an evolved survival mechanism. If women are unable to maintain a relationship or friendship, they may feel disappointed in themselves, not just their partners or friends. The inability to keep a relationship on track, even if the other person is to blame, can be perceived as a personal failure.

    Eventually, the loss will begin to feel more like your history, not your present. In fact, research suggests that relationships that are unsatisfying or marred with unpleasant interactions are worse for your emotional well-being than an absence of romance or friendships.”

    Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D.

  • “Ringo, I Love You”: They Thought Cher Was a Man!

    1 de Agosto de 2020 by

    “The song is completely innocuous. However, Cher’s vocals on the song made many people assume she was a man. Because of this, people interpreted “Ringo, I Love You” as a gay love song. Subsequently, “Ringo, I Love You” was banned from the majority of radio stations. The song was a commercial flop.”

  • Want a Satisfying Sexual Life? Girls, Let’s Lube!

    31 de Julho de 2020 by

    In both women and men, lube enhances skin sensitivity to erotic touch. Many women of all ages don’t self-lubricate sufficiently for comfortable intercourse. And many post-menopausal women suffer chronic vaginal dryness. As a result, many sexologists encourage couples of all ages to use lube every time.

    Girls, let’s lube!

  • How Men Confuse Sexual Attraction with Emotional Connection?

    25 de Julho de 2020 by

    “All of us have unresolved childhood hurts due to betrayal, anger, manipulation, or abuse. Unconsciously, we seek healing through our partner. And we try to achieve this healing by bonding with someone we sense might hurt us in similar ways to how we were hurt as children, in the hope that we can then convince him or her to finally love and accept us.

    Our conscious self is drawn to the positive qualities we yearn for, but our unconscious draws us to the qualities which remind us of how we were wounded the most.”

    Ken Page L.C.S.W.

  • Motherhood: Are Children for me?

    10 de Julho de 2020 by

    “A society that properly loved children would know that the single greatest contribution to children’s welfare is the removal of the idea that everyone should automatically have them. A good society would give equal prestige to childless and childful states. We best honor children, the born and the unborn, by accepting that parenting should never be the automatic choice – just as the wisest way to ensure that people will have happy marriages is to destigmatize the single state.”

    by School of Life

  • Social Media: The Short Cut Path to Become a Narcissist

    8 de Julho de 2020 by

    “Unfortunately, most of the individuals don’t understand that social platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and common dating apps. Such as Tinder or OkCupid are made to addict our brain and change the way we relate and perceive relationships. The usage of algorithms is a common way that those platforms use to manipulate your emotions and needs. The neuroscience behind social media is to make you crave more, more validation, more attention, more praise, and for that reason, in your feeds tend to appear more the posts of people who you add recently to testify your compatibility.”

  • The Power Of Real Friendships

    6 de Julho de 2020 by

    “Be there for friends when they face difficult times. Recognize that even if your presence and a warm hug are all that you can offer, these gestures speak volumes to a friend in need.”

    Suzanne Degges-White, Ph.D.

  • What Do We Want From Men?

    3 de Julho de 2020 by

    “Women don’t need partners who invest all their energy in trying to prove how strong, manly, masculine, macho, or heroic they are. They just want men who are willing to meet them where they are and treat them fairly and equitably — and are able to make sure that the romantic spark keeps burning.”

    Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.

  • Penis Size, does it Really Matter?

    2 de Julho de 2020 by

    At ancient cultures, like Roman and Greek, if we take a look at how male statuettes are made, their penises are surprisingly small with clear evidence that what matters is the body structure and testicles form. In this period, virility and potency were centered in the testicles, and the penis was only the instrument of sperm passage for fertilization. This idea that small is perfection lasted till renaissance.

  • What Babies Can Teach Us About Love and Life?

    30 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Babies are soft. Anyone looking at them can see the tender, fragile skin and know it for the rose-leaf softness that invites a finger’s touch. But when you live with them and love them, you feel the softness going inward, the round-cheeked flesh wobbly as custard, the boneless splay of the tiny hands.”

    Diana Gabaldon

  • Are You Looking For a Penis Or a Real Man?

    28 de Junho de 2020 by

    “To master the terror of another letdown, we go cold, we respond sarcastically to sincere compliments and insist with aggression that they don’t really care for us at all, thereby ensuring that they eventually won’t.

    To escape these debilitating cycles, we need to accept that we’re searching for someone to love us while wrestling with the most fateful of background suspicions: that we don’t in any way deserve love.”

    School of Life

  • Let It Go Aka Freedom

    26 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Past hurts and old injustices have a way of keeping us stuck in our tracks, unable to move forward or experience joy. It can take a radical reboot to get past yesterday.

    As your skill at mindfulness increases, you will, by definition, get past the past.”

  • This Is How It Feels: Narcissistic Father’s

    21 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm, but the harm (that they cause) does not interest them. Or they do not see it, or they justify it because they are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves.” —T.S. Eliot

  • “I’m Done!” – The Perils of Infatuation

    20 de Junho de 2020 by

    “Levitan quotes the research of psychologist Dorothy Tennov who found that the duration of infatuation typically lasts at most “between approximately 18 months and three years.” Circumstances like a long-distance relationship or chronic relationship insecurity may artificially extend the tingling phenomenon, at the cost of delaying the shift either into a departure from the relationship or into commitment to a mature and reliable love partnership.”

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