© 2019 Alexandra Maria Santos.  All rights reserved

“Eat a live frog first in the morning, and nothing worse will happen to you the rest of the day” – Mark

The noun resilience stems from the Latin resilient “to rebound, recoil.” Its well know for a set of features that allow us to recover from trauma or tragedy, threats or other significant sources of stress.

You bend, but you don’t break.

Traits of resilient people:

  1. Protect their soul
  2. They control their destiny
  3. Commitment
  4. Close, secure attachment to others
  5. Self-efficacy
  6. Strengthening effect of stress
  7. Patience
  8. Faith
  9. Realistic sense of control
  10. Under pressure, focus and think clearly
  11. Prefer to take the lead in problem-solving
  12. Make unpopular or difficult decisions
  13. Strong sense of purpose
  14. When things look hopeless, never give up
  15. Like challenges
  16. Good communication skills
  17. Back bone of the family
  18. Can handle unpleasant feelings
  19. Protect those they love

Everything in life is about balance, you can’t enjoy the daylight, without understanding the darkest nights. Developing resilience is a very personal process, and for me it was a journey of gaining perspective, self-awareness, and problem-solving skills. Stepping out from the flames, molded by the heat and the challenges I had to face.

Be resilient means you embrace hardships as a cause, and you endorse your standards until the end of your life as a flag. It means for me also I was and still be the backbone of my family, helping to keep everything upright and moving forward. Was it easy? Not really, but someone had to do that work. Living is a marathon, not a sprint, and for that matter of fact, I was always careful when it comes to chose people to share this journey with me. I have lost people I love, I have lost emotional memories, but never allowed anyone to take my dignity away.

Since the moment I am aware of my emotions, I can tell you, sometimes, it can be a lonely journey where you have to stand for yourself, and for the ones you love. I learned that love is an art. You can be a good painter, but without a good canvas, you don’t impress. The same happens in life and intimate relationships if we hold back affection, we lose our inner power, and we don’t show up.

Resiliency is rooted in self-awareness. The ability to cope with and overcome difficulties and tragedies of life understanding we own our emotions and capabilities well I’m the architect of my life and existence, when I feel so anxious, I know that even making bad choices I have the strength and tenacity to pursue a better path.

Adversity came into my life to guide me to my true destiny, and yes, it invokes pain, suffering, and disappointments. And yes, pain can be caused by our actions, including our inability to achieve the desired aspiration. However, despite our darkest moments, we must stay connected to our core intention.

Resiliency’s about reaching out to our highest potential by taking risks consistent with ethos and purpose. I’ve been there, standing on an uncomfortable ledge.

An authentic journey does not always come from blasting through rocks and impediments, rather from having faith and adaptability to cope with harsh realities of life.

I learned it’s important to avoid people who bring us down, waste our time, take us backward, and have no interest in our suffering. The people we surround ourselves with make the difference between failure and success. Don’t think twice about cutting out from your life toxic people because they will never see your value.

Resilient people are identified as complicated individuals because we think out of the box because we analyze every option, every strategy. But, news flash, all we want and crave is a better world with more justice and a sacred place where we call home, our sweet home.

The experience of writing about my emotions is what helped me to succeed never forget my value, and the value of life.

To all my readers, I wish you a wonderful week.

With love,


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