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I Cherish you!

Let me ask you this: How many times do you cherish your partner?

Everywhere we see and hear people writing and talking that we are living in a life period where everything is faster. But no one tells you how to stop and give attention to your life and relationships.

Let me give some ingredients that you can work and rock on your life and intimate relationships:

  1. Team First
    Remember that you are your partner are a team, no matter what.
  2. Be fair, Be You
    Disappointments and disillusioned will arise at some point in the relationship, be fair with your partner. Don’t play the blame game, and remember your partner’s background is different from yours.
  3. Vulnerability
    Allow yourself and your partner to be vulnerable. One of the reasons why emotional betrayal appear, it’s because the couple don’t allow each element to express their individual needs/fears.
  4. Resiliency
    If you or your partner are facing challenging moments in life, see this as an opportunity to get close and offer support. The best relationships are those built during hardships where you have emotional support from your partner, no matter what.
  5. Self-reflection
    Your self-beliefs are the inputs you introduce into your life and your relationship. When you don’t cherish your core values, you don’t see your partner as one individual. But when you live according to your core values, you allow your partner to experience their lack of congruency, taking the responsibility to recommit and correct what is necessary.
  6. Become an Alpha People
    There is a wrong idea about the meaning of being one alpha person, often associated with negative traits. Alpha people can deal well with stress and watch over their tribe at the same time. Alpha people solve problems or at least seek all kinds of solutions for them. Alpha men or women will respect their partners, cherish them, making sure they are safe and feel loved. One of the best qualities of Alpha people is, they will sacrifice their own needs if the intimate relationship needs support. Honesty, assertiveness, open to new ideas, willing to take risks are just short examples of qualities in these people.

If you try to follow with baby steps the points above, I’m sure you will start to experience substantial changes in your life and intimate relationships. The only thing I ask you is to be yourself, no matter what. With this, I mean, treat the ones you love with respect and remember you are with them for one reason.

To my partner,

Before closing this article, I would like to say it has been an incredible journey be in our intimate relationship. We have so much ahead waiting for us. Your struggles, your anxiety, and scared moments made me realize how much beautiful human being you are. You are a strong man, but you do have feelings, you feel pain, you feel anger, you do feel happiness.

You changed my life, and I love it when I see you being vulnerable with me. There is no reason anymore for you to feel alone I’m by your side with no empty promises.

“Lost is how I’m feeling lying in your arms
When the world outside’s too much to take
That all ends when I’m with you”

And because we are talking about passion, I share with you the last article of Dr Thomas Maples

With love,


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  1. This is beautiful! I love your tribute at the end to your beloved as well. It warmed my heart. Men need to be heard and valued too. Their feelings are real, legitimate and worthy of expression. Society’s standards have been toxic for men and women. We need to let all that wrong thinking mess go. Be free to express our thoughts, our emotions and our needs with those we love.

    These are excellent points that I believe will help lots of people. 😉 Many blessings to you for sharing your loving heart! ♥

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    1. Holly,

      Thank you so much for your commentary.

      When I decided to create this place, it was to share with people the way I see and feel things. I don’t like labels, but I define myself as an Alpha woman, and being one alpha requires empathy, loyalty, sincerity towards your tribe. Yes, life can be harsh, but that doesn’t mean you should forget people you love.

      About him, I’m glad the fact that I chose him to love.

      Have a wonderful weekend.

      Cherish yourself.



  2. Beautiful words. Life is too serious to take seriously. Our capacity to love is exists only in tandem with the timeline of our life. It is too shot to take for granted.

    Gratitude is the Attitude to encompass in our daily life. This was a wonderful post of Thanksgiving and Thank you for sharing.

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  3. Lovely advice, and very refreshing. It’s so easy to try and change the ones we love, but so much more amazing to love them, just as they are, just as we fell in love with them. Thank you.

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      1. Yes, it’s so easy to take those closest to us for granted, but it also takes such little effort to let them know that we love them.



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