For those of you who are new to the term Phubbing, Phubbing is a dopamine slot machine that keeps you away from real relationships.
Phubbing is the act of snubbing people in favor of a phone, is a disrespectful, harmful, and a habit that can ruin relationships.
Commenting, Liking, email-checking, scrolling, notifications are fake dopamine triggers. Those dopamine triggers can create massive destructions into your intimate relationships because it enhances emotional distance between partners.
Why Phubbing can be so harmful?
We should never forget, or at least understand which love language our partner has. If your partner’s love language is quality time, be sure that soon or later, your partner will resent you for you spending so much time using your cell phone.
Electronic devices are addictive, and the addictive power belonging to these little creatures are at time just impossible to compete.
In addition to the constant scooping up of the phone and checking it, trouble can start when device usage becomes secretive. Having the cell phone locked or if one partner enters the room and the other quickly puts the phone away, it’s cause for concern.
“Affairs don’t have to be physical in nature”
What is the solution for a Phubbing situation?
- Don’t dismiss the words of your partner as complaining or controlling
- Put your phone away during dinner and other events
- Identify the difference between crucial and important. Ask yourself: Do I need to check out my cell phone all the time?
- About people who are messaging you, constantly, for nothing, ask yourself: Do they have a life?
- Implement the “device-free days” and even “no-phone zones”
- Take a break from social media and see what happens.
Now let me share my personal experience:
As far as I remember, I always hated cell phones, although it is a necessary evil, the way it has been used now go far beyond the acceptable lines for healthy existence.
I barely use my cell phone even now, and I don’t have the popular platform Instagram. Why? Priorities.
You might ask why she hates cell phones? Well, I discovered with sixteen years old that my “father” was having one affair with another woman because his cell phone was always receiving text messages with all kinds of promiscuous content. Because emotions are brain associations, you have an explanation for why I hate cell phones.
My personal advice to you is this:
- When you are with your partner, put your cell phone away, use a drawer to save both cell phones, and enjoy your moments together.
- Define a time line for activities like checking your email, facebook, messenger, etc. After that return to your normal life and to your relationship.
- Tell people who are distracting you with bullshit, that you are with your partner, and wish them well.
Is this a hard thing to do?
The answer belongs to you. I know mine. Do you know yours?
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