In our current days, everyone wants to have a healthy and happy relationship but, the truth, we are living confusing days where there are no rules for dating, and relationships are low maintenance.
Fall in love is easy. Stay in love through good and bad moments requires your resilience and the ability to be perseverant.
Even though some relationships will naturally fail, many ends because people are too lazy to accept and work on differences, and want an easy life even in love.
Here I give you the seven keys to have one more fulfilling relationship:
- The Courage to be vulnerable
- Ability to grow
- Sense of Humor
What means candor for real, you may ask:
Candor, in simple words, is your ability to tell the hard truths to your partner. There are moments in the relationship where you must hear painful things, and grab the bull by the horns.
Candor is the bridge you edifice between perseverance and the courage to be vulnerable. How can you have one intimate relationship with your partner if he or she holds back the fundamental bases of intimacy?
To conclude my article and invite you to think about this topic, I will share what Dr. Lisa Firestone discovered in her studies and her book “Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships”:
“Almost every one of us struggles, to some degree, to stay connected to our loving feelings. Early experiences of feeling hurt or rejected can injure our ability to connect with and sustain our loving feelings. Giving and receiving love actually challenges our core defenses, early adaptations we formed to protect ourselves against the ways we were hurt.”
“While none of us choose to fall out of love, many of us are unaware of the defenses we’ve formed and adaptations we’ve made that may now limit us in our ability to stay close and connected to our partner. For example, it may be hard to stay connected and trust someone completely when we grew up feeling insecure and neglected. It can be difficult to be vulnerable and consistently kind when we grew up with people who were cold, punishing, or had their own difficulty giving and receiving love.”
Wishing you love,