To truly love our partners, we cannot see them as adults but as children. As ironic as this idea may be, when we see the ones we love like children, we will be more generous and compassionate in the interpretation of their behavior.
To fully increment the growth in love, we have to give our partners the instructions manual that will help them to love us and give them the acknowledgment that our weakest moments are the greatest opportunity to learn and envolve.
With love,
Alexandra
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Love doesn’t come with a rule book. When we say I do, the priest does not hand us an instruction manual for the hard work that is to come. It is up to us to make those rules happen, and enjoy the process as it unfolds.
There is some great wisdom here. We give our children rules, but we rarely identify the rules that we have or engage by in our relationship. These rules oftentimes remain unconscious, dictating the moods of our relationship without us taking a conscious role in the direction we are heading with our loved ones.
Great post Alexandra. Thank you for sharing!
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I think we all should ask questions to our partners like: What are the things that trigger your emotional responses?
Is there something that you would love to share with me? Something that would help me to deal with you better when you are feeling, anxious, sad or angry?
Our adult behaviors have their roots in childhood, so the more we understand it, the more be with someone will be fulfilling and harmonious.
Have a lovely day, Tom 🙂
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In order to truly love another, one must first develop self love. That deep in owing of self that allows one to truly connect with others. You are right, it comes from childhood.
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I think Freud gave us a deep understanding of how we behave as adults, even if most don’t like that idea.
More than go for a first date and ask what your job is, we should ask how your childhood was.
In love, we have to find the right technology to help us to emit the right signal, the signal of what we truly want. My next podcast will be about this 😉
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Looking forward to it.
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It is my last post “Why they leave us?”
Have a wonderful week 🙂
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Does this mean that I have to clean my room and get to bed on time? 😀
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Pee and brush your teeth before bed, yes 🙂
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I feel like I’m being sent to my room. 😉
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Do you have the white towel with you? 😉
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That’s all that I have. 😀
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Well… 🙂 that sounds very appetitive 🙂
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I’m happy that you approve. 🙂
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It seems like we have mutual approval, don’t you think?
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Do you have a white towel, too? 😀
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I have more than you know 😉
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Oh, the mind boggles! 😀
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And I understand why 😉
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Yes, I’ve seen the black dress already, so the towel only requires a little more imagination. 😉
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Believe me when I say it’s a new dimension, and the black dress is just a veil that covers the passage to the Goddess paradise.
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Removing veils to secret passages sounds delightful. 🙂
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Requires consistency after all 🙂
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Practice, too😁😉
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A wise man said practice sharpens the device.
😉
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And the device is protected by the towel😉
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Are you sure?
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Unless someone pulls it away😎
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Pulls it away, and then…
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Sharpening? 😉
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Great post
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Thank you Kyle 🙂
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