Evolve so much that others will have to get to know you again.
The sentence above can be for sure a motivational statement, but for me, it is a crude and lasting reflection of one journey with more than twenty years. Twenty years that changed me forever as a woman, twenty years of adjustment, and knowledge that what our mind creates the body achieves.
With 15 years old, I was told I wouldn’t be able to carry a baby because I had a rare disease called Mayer-Rokitansky-Kuster-Hauser. For many women, it is a pain in the ass, but for me was a gift.
note: I wrote about Rokitansky in here.
You might be surprised when I say the diagnosis was a gift, but the truth is I learned how to be completely intuned with my body and emotions.
Firstly, I had to rediscover my identity as a woman, and cope with the fact that I wouldn’t be able to carry a baby because of womb’s absentee. It was necessary to collect all my lost pieces and rebuilt my identity, relearn how to live, and live in the moment. For this reason, for almost ten years, I never dated.
Secondly, it helped to look at people, men, and life with attention and see beyond the surface.
I am a survivor not because I accepted to wear the victim’s skin, but because I died and reborn to tell all of you how I did it.
These last two decades have brought into my life so many good things and that certainty that I will be a mother in the future because now, the medically assisted procreation offers us so many options.
I had to deal with two early menopause threats, that I overcame, changing my lifestyle, and being a team with my doctor.
My message for you is simple, just because you don’t have a uterus or other condiction inherent to Rokitansky syndrome don’t feel less, less woman, less human being. One in 4 thousand women are born with Rokitansky we are special, remember this, we are special.
Enjoy your life, yourself, and your relationships. Don’t be afraid that you will never ever find love because the right partner for you will be your rock, and at the end of the day, he will embark on this journey by your side.
Dating can be daunting in our days, and it requires emotional maturity to sustain one intimate bond, but you are there, and with your life experience, you can teach others how they can be with you, and be like you.
Don’t let fear or others stop you!!
I will close this article with the lyrics of one Duran Duran’s song called Ordinary World:
“And I don’t cry for yesterday
There’s an ordinary world Somehow I have to find
And as I try to make my way
To the ordinary world
I will learn to survive
Every world is my world (I will learn to survive)
Any world is my world (I will learn to survive)
Any world is my world”
I hope this simple article can help how much women as possible.