Adele song – Send my love (To your new lover) – teach us the reason why we shouldn’t fall in love faster in the initial stages of dating. The Love Bombing phase, which is one form of abuse, is a technique used by an unavailable partner category where we can insert people with avoidant attachment. Narcissists and other forms of personalities that are afraid of real intimacy.

“This was all you, none of it me
You put your hands all over my body and told me, umm
You told me you were ready
For the big one, for the big jump
I’d be your last love everlasting you and me
That was what you told me
I’m giving you up
I’ve forgiven it all
You set me free,
Oh Send my love to your new lover
Treat her better
We’ve gotta let go of all of our ghosts
We both know we ain’t kids no more”

Everything is fast, you are their god or goddess, and you have a pedestal in their imagination, which is running wild and free since the very first moment they saw you. They pull you into this amazing dream, where you are perfect, their soul mate, till one day they see you are a real person.

Yes, you can see them, you love them, but they can’t see you. Sooner, the fade away phase will start, and you won’t understand why.
If you are one educational partner, and you tried to have a conversation with no results, you won’t chase and give them the breakup they want.

“I was too strong you were trembling
You couldn’t handle the hot heat rising (rising), umm
Baby I’m so rising
I was running, you were walking
You couldn’t keep up, you were falling down (down), umm
There’s only one way down
I’m giving you up
I’ve forgiven it all
You set me free, oh”

After the breakup/discard, they will find somebody else with whom the same scene will be played. But if you are emotionally healthy, no contact will be the source of happiness and self-healing that you deserve.

You will rise again, and they will remember your name forever because you didn’t stay in their harem, and no one can replace the real person you were, and always will be.

All my love for you,


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    1. Maja,

      If we are aware, one song can teach us many things about life and relationships. This particular song tells us that we should be careful when we are getting to know someone because too much, in the beginning, will lead to disaster. The more we understand how our brain works, and how our childhood influenced our adulthood love map, the more we will kick in the ass abusive people and select healthy ones.

      Take care of yourself ❤



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