After the end of one relationship, be it with a narcissist or a regular individual, it is imperative to take a long break from the dating world and acknowledge what needs to be changed.
We, human beings, need connections the most, but I am an active advocate that we also lose amazing partners because of familiarity with toxic blindness.
Toxic blindness happens when your brain sends you signals that your partner is boring because of the absence of the trigger for the emotional roller coaster that is required to feel the familiar passion.
“Familiar passion” is the reason why many men and women dump good partners. The ambivalent love they experienced in their childhood through their parents programmed their brain to recognize consistency, kindness, and compassion from a prospective partner as a turn-off. Because the thrill of the chase in this dynamic is absent, which in reality erodes real connections to happen, they will seek out more familiar targets even if they remain single forever.
I would like you to understand that everything has a contribution to how we perceive love, even our hormones. And talking about hormones, the honeymoon phase for emotionally unavailable individuals are way shorter than for the rest of the population. Their propendency to addiction leads them to believe once the honeymoon phase wears off, they don’t love their partner anymore and so they have to replace the person.
Listen to this video with attention and take care of your heart and soul.
“Here are the reasons why taking a break from dating can help us to sort through other issues, so that when we get back in the saddle, there’s a chance of relationships going in better directions:
1. Relationships can be re-traumatizing.
2. Dysfunctional relationships prevent personal growth.
3. Relationships interfere with psychotherapy.
4. Relationships can keep us from doing what we really want to do.
5. Letting ourselves get pulled into familiar relationships can prevent us from finding new relationships.“
Source: Psychology Today