Penis size, does it really matter?
The answer is simple: No!
In recent years many studies and even social experience has taught us that men are suffering pressure to be great performers in bed and wondering if their penis size is enough to satisfy their partners. Believe it or not, one of the causes, why this happens, is related to the consumption of pornography. The camera angles towards the male sexual genitalia and even the incredible performances with all sort of positions, leave the sensation in men that they aren’t good enough. The question should be when it comes to pornography:
Do you know how many pauses they take to record scenes? Do you know that they take pills to have last long erections?
Now, let’s take a look at our history to understand how society viewed penis size.
At ancient cultures, like Roman and Greek, look at how male statuettes are made, their penises are surprisingly small with clear evidence that what matters is the body structure and testicles form. In this period, virility and potency were centered in the testicles, and the penis was only the instrument of sperm passage for fertilization. This idea that small is perfection lasted till renaissance.
After the XIX century till our days, the size of penises are now the center of everything and synonym of virility, which leads men to experience performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, and avoidance behaviors when it comes to sexual intercourse. We should thank the pornography industry and also our shallow culture for destroying the real meaning of what is being a man and woman. Unless you have a micropenis, the size of your penis is normal. Women, if they are emotionally healthy, don’t care about your penis size or if you can do circus art positions.
After many years at school and working hard to have a stable life or at least a prospective stable life, women in their middle 30’s tend to seek a steady partner to settle down. Sex is important. But co-related with emotional safety and satisfaction. So women don’t care about your penis size, they care if you are a reliable source of emotional stability and if they can be who they are around you, and you around them.
More than talk about penis size, you should look at how was your first sexual experience. What kind of partners you had. What kind of conversations you heard all your life about sex and intimacy from your peers and family members. Are sexuality and your body a taboo for you? How do you see sex? Mechanical or an act of love that you share with another person?
Be all you can be! Be you!
If your partner blames you for your penis size or is only interested in your penis and sexual performances, there is something wrong, and that should be a warning sign to look after.
We all know that hookup culture and shallow relationships are on the rise. But I also know that all this immense pressure towards men leads them to severe cases of depression, and a profound inability to sustain or remain in healthy partnerships.
To conclude this article, which I hope will be helpful, I want to warn for one dangerous problem, the usage of pornography and social media causes abnormalities in the orbitofrontal cortex region and also in callosum corpus, which connects the two cerebral hemispheres. The damages are the same as those caused by the consumption of drugs and alcohol.
Take care of yourself!
- Capogrosso, P. (2013). One Patient Out of Four with Newly Diagnosed Erectile Dysfunction Is a Young Man—Worrisome Picture from the Everyday Clinical Practice. [online]. Available at: http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jsm.12179/abstract [accessed 24 July 2019].