What do we want from men?
An Amazing question to take with us through the weekend, so grab a piece of paper and a pen and write what you want or need from men.
Long ago, in fairytale stories, women needed a prince with a white horse to rescue them from all the dangers in the world. But today, the reality is different. We want and need a real partner and a real connection. So let me give you some guidance, and let me know if you agree:
- Moral Integrity, in which you englobe honesty. Trustworthiness, communication, and responsibility.
- Relational Sensitivity, in here, you have kindness, patience, understanding, emotional maturity, friendship, emotional and practical support. And finally, validation and acceptance.
- Intimacy Satisfaction, Intimacy satisfaction, when you bring adventure and excitement into the relationship in a safe way, but also, and at the same time, there is real experimentation of companionship and partnership. You might not be that adept of saying “I love you”, but for sure, in your own way and language, your partner will be happy to know how you feel. When a man provides emotional safety and intellectual stimulation, the woman in his life will feel connected, and as a result, she will want to have sex.
It is my philosophy that when men awaken for love, something quite beautiful happens. For many generations and even centuries, and through peer groups, men were taught not to show any emotion because it was a weakness sign. The reality today is that many men out there are seeking real connections and real partnerships. And that’s why it is so important for us, women, to tune our partner selection mechanism because these men deserve a chance.
Men are animals with instincts and are biologically programmed to have sex and thus continue our specie. But that does not mean that they don’t want to give and receive love. In psychology, we know and is well documented that men’s longevity and happiness increase when they do have a stable romantic relationship.
Because love is simple
It is worth of harvesting
Can be born in any exile
grow on any field
Come on, don’t be afraid!
Don’t leave your heart without love!
Miguel Torga, 1945
I want you to be happy, but above all, free!
Alexandra
Ouso Escrever 
Yassss!
I totally agree with the point about emotional safety & intellectual stimulation.
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…and muscles. 😉 It’s true you creatures of biology!!! 😉
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Muscles are part of the visual fantasy, even though with age, that need starts to fade away, and we do prefer emotional/intellectual features. 🙂
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Yes I can believe you there definitely. I’m actually not overly muscle-ly and still got my wife so yes…concur. 😉
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From my experience Donovan, with time, physical characteristics tend to be the last thing we look in one romantic partner. Sure physical attractiveness is important in the early stages of dating, but after that, what remains is emotional maturity and emotional intelligence.
Now what I will look for in the future is for a man who did his inner work. Someone who can carry a relationship with maturity and understanding, without games, breadcrumbing, or other sorts of toxic behaviors because there are in this world so many people ready to give and receive love.
When girls are in their teenage years or early twenties, they are testing the waters and the emotional roller coaster feed conversations with their peers. When we reach thirty-five or so, we don’t have the patience for childish behaviors or men who don’t know what they want.
Have a lovely day 🙂
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Well said for sure. I agree, it’s similar from male perspective…fickleness decreases as u age for many I believe
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Você (as mulheres) merece(m) alguém que não precise(m) questionar…
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🙂 Desejo-te uma excelente semana, Ricardo!
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