Human beings are complex creatures, and the more complex they will become when in one intimate relationship. At some level, all of us experienced traumatic experiences in our lives, which left an imprint in our subconscious mind. For this reason, we all have unmet needs that can be dangerous when in the wrong hands, and this is why so many men and women fall into the trap of toxic relationships with emotional predators or unavailable people.
Men were and are still being taught that it is wrong to express their feelings or talk about emotions. Even though this scenario is changing with many men educating themselves for love, many relationships still failing because of the lack of efficient communication. But also how our unmet emotional needs play harsh games with our emotions and perception of our partners.
So before you leave the partner that you have by your side, because somebody else comes along and is closing the gap in one of your unmet emotional needs. Ask yourself why you are not feeling seen by your partner, and see if you are expressing your needs correctly.
More than exchange partners, we should be honest with ourselves and allow vulnerability, fear, and uncertainty to be part of a healthy emotional life. We don’t have to be happy all the time. We have to be who we are and do the hard work of self-discovering and self-acceptance.
The right woman for you, because this post is about men, will see you and love you exactly like you are. A healthy woman will want to connect with you not because of the things you possess and your abilities in bed, but for how much safe she feels around you.
“In many attractions of inspiration, it can take time for our attraction to build. In such cases, it can be difficult to resist fleeing in search of something more clear-cut. As a result, many potentially wonderful relationships are cut off before ever being given a chance. The truth is that we can deepen our healthy attractions, and intensify their passion.
When we desire someone and then postpone the sex (for at least five or six dates), surprising new pathways of attraction form. It’s a great way to grow passion. More important, having sex too early is like Miracle-Gro for any fear of intimacy we might have. It makes us want to flee. So go slowly on the outside, but allow yourself free rein in your fantasy life.”
I hope you enjoy the video below.