You are here to live your experience to the fullest, not to be the clown of somebody else’s circus.
Arquivos do autor:Alexandra Maria Santos
Adult Conjugality
Adult conjugality requires focus, understanding, and time. Time to cement feelings of mutuality and companionship.
You had Sex with Him, but Something Changed!
Endorse your sexuality and desire with no shameful thoughts. You slept with the Guy. OWN IT!
Why Can’t You Find a Partner?
By removing your body and mind from what feels comfortable, you are opening new doors, new possibilities, and trust me, looking at kindhearted individuals will be a brand newish thrilling experience.
Should You Talk About Your Past With Your Partner? Yes, but Not as You Think!
“Having boundaries doesn’t make you uptight. Feeling uncomfortable when someone overshares doesn’t make you an uncaring person. Everyone has boundaries. Acknowledging, setting, and protecting yours is a kind of self-care. When others recognize and don’t try to cross them, it is a sign of respect. Healthy relationships require sharing yourself with others, but they also require boundaries between what is a comfortable level of closeness and what is TMI.”
Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T.
‘Thirty Heaven’
My birthday. A message.
Live by Design, Not by Default
Psychologically structured individuals do not come from an easy life. But because with suffering, one grows.
The Rising Sun
Gladly I still see the sun rising. Gladly I am alive.
Letting You Go
‘Saying goodbye allows us to put words to feelings, shape how we remember someone, codify our choices, and frame distinct periods of time. In short, goodbyes give us a sense of closure as we move into the next phases of our lives.’ – Jo-Ann Finkelstein Ph.D.
Embracing
“For one to be free there must be at least two.” – Zygmunt Bauman
She Remembers
The last goodbye kiss, is this our goodbye?
You and I the forging force of lovers
with so much unsaid and undone.
I remember. I will remember.
Are You an Intimidating Woman? No! Just a Fragile and Stronger Human Being.
The most rewarding experiences come from different people who can align themselves in life together. Remember, perhaps tomorrow we might not be here, so as long as we are, be sure to surpass yourself to the point where the one you love will continue his or her’s prosperity even in your absence. Because you nurtured their individuality and saw who they were despite their ‘malfunctions’.
We are humans. We are fragile beings.
Freedom to Love Begins Within.
Would it be better to assume that we have no education for love and, perhaps, help is needed?
Do We Really Need Dating Games? – World Sexual Health Day
We have at least 90 years of credits to live. Please, live it wisely without constrictions or thinking about if acceptance by peers will be granted. Do not ever take anyone for granted, and be sure that from them. You learned the best.
I Wanna Love You… But I Don’t by Ben Platt
We are indoctrinated since a young age by movies, songs, and role models that love is an automatic response. That we must find the perfect person, the soulmate, “the one”, and everything will flow. We aren’t taught or teaching our children how to deal with frustration. Different points of view, general differences on how to approach daily life matters.
Sadly, the rule now is if there is a difference, then the other person isn’t the right fit for us.
IF You Are a Woman, Never Make This Mistake!
Men and women are spending too much time online and not cultivating their relationships correctly. The other side of the coin is that now everything is allowed and normalized, leading to permissive behaviors and blaming the uncomfortable partner for calling out those behaviors.
How to Transform Your Relationship with an Anxious Preoccupied Partner?
Nothing is set in stone, and as adults, we can change our lives and relational dynamics to a better place. Lastly, as human beings, we are emotionally responsible for ourselves but also for our loved ones. Be kind to you, be kind to the ones you love or once were loved by you.
How to Transform Your Relationship with Dismissive Avoidant Partner?
Is every relationship worthy of saving if both partners are willing to do the work? Myth or true? The general rule is 90% of intimate relationships are worth saving. But they tend to fail because, over time, human needs aren’t being met, attachment styles are getting in the way, and finally, a profound misinterpretation of each other love language.
The Art of Setting Boundaries in Intimate Relationships
Permissiveness is the antidote to desire, emotional attraction, and intimate connection. As Gottman points out, in a committed relationship, we should maintain boundaries in our other relationships as a way to maintain not only the privacy of our commitment but also protect our partners.
Everything Should Flow in Love: Wrong!
Love is a skill to learn which requires open lines of communication. Communication about what is important. Substantial and divergent for each couplehood member.