New years are redemption opportunities. However, there is something we must take into consideration, our subconscious mind. Without taking on board our subconscious mind, which is responsible for processing 20 million bits per second of information, the necessary changes in our lives won’t happen.
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Overcoming Emotional Burnout: My Journey
If you are experiencing exhaustion talk about it to those close to you. Seek professional help and quit all stressors in your life. Be it your work, personal relationships, or both. Yes, it will be a scary place to go, but we all live once.
The night won’t stop you from leaving. The wind is calling. Have the courage to be happy. For you, above all for you!
Merry Christmas a see you next year!
To be Loved by Adele
Self-love isn’t the cure for all ailments. Dealing with another person requires maturity and having at least all drawers in the right place.
The Neediness Trap: Set Yourself Free
You are here to live your experience to the fullest, not to be the clown of somebody else’s circus.
Adult conjugality requires focus, understanding, and time. Time to cement feelings of mutuality and companionship.
You had Sex with Him, but Something Changed!
Endorse your sexuality and desire with no shameful thoughts. You slept with the Guy. OWN IT!
Why Can’t You Find a Partner?
By removing your body and mind from what feels comfortable, you are opening new doors, new possibilities, and trust me, looking at kindhearted individuals will be a brand newish thrilling experience.
Should You Talk About Your Past With Your Partner? Yes, but Not as You Think!
“Having boundaries doesn’t make you uptight. Feeling uncomfortable when someone overshares doesn’t make you an uncaring person. Everyone has boundaries. Acknowledging, setting, and protecting yours is a kind of self-care. When others recognize and don’t try to cross them, it is a sign of respect. Healthy relationships require sharing yourself with others, but they also require boundaries between what is a comfortable level of closeness and what is TMI.”
Andrea Brandt Ph.D. M.F.T.
My birthday. A message.
Live by Design, Not by Default
Psychologically structured individuals do not come from an easy life. But because with suffering, one grows.
The Rising Sun
Gladly I still see the sun rising. Gladly I am alive.
Letting You Go
‘Saying goodbye allows us to put words to feelings, shape how we remember someone, codify our choices, and frame distinct periods of time. In short, goodbyes give us a sense of closure as we move into the next phases of our lives.’ – Jo-Ann Finkelstein Ph.D.
“For one to be free there must be at least two.” – Zygmunt Bauman
The last goodbye kiss, is this our goodbye?
You and I the forging force of lovers
with so much unsaid and undone.
I remember. I will remember.
Are You an Intimidating Woman? No! Just a Fragile and Stronger Human Being.
The most rewarding experiences come from different people who can align themselves in life together. Remember, perhaps tomorrow we might not be here, so as long as we are, be sure to surpass yourself to the point where the one you love will continue his or her’s prosperity even in your absence. Because you nurtured their individuality and saw who they were despite their ‘malfunctions’.
We are humans. We are fragile beings.
Freedom to Love Begins Within.
Would it be better to assume that we have no education for love and, perhaps, help is needed?
Do We Really Need Dating Games? – World Sexual Health Day
We have at least 90 years of credits to live. Please, live it wisely without constrictions or thinking about if acceptance by peers will be granted. Do not ever take anyone for granted, and be sure that from them. You learned the best.
I Wanna Love You… But I Don’t by Ben Platt
We are indoctrinated since a young age by movies, songs, and role models that love is an automatic response. That we must find the perfect person, the soulmate, “the one”, and everything will flow. We aren’t taught or teaching our children how to deal with frustration. Different points of view, general differences on how to approach daily life matters.
Sadly, the rule now is if there is a difference, then the other person isn’t the right fit for us.
IF You Are a Woman, Never Make This Mistake!
Men and women are spending too much time online and not cultivating their relationships correctly. The other side of the coin is that now everything is allowed and normalized, leading to permissive behaviors and blaming the uncomfortable partner for calling out those behaviors.
How to Transform Your Relationship with an Anxious Preoccupied Partner?
Nothing is set in stone, and as adults, we can change our lives and relational dynamics to a better place. Lastly, as human beings, we are emotionally responsible for ourselves but also for our loved ones. Be kind to you, be kind to the ones you love or once were loved by you.