“Women don’t need partners who invest all their energy in trying to prove how strong, manly, masculine, macho, or heroic they are. They just want men who are willing to meet them where they are and treat them fairly and equitably — and are able to make sure that the romantic spark keeps burning.”
We are living this period where social distance is a rule, where you can’t be with the ones you love, there is no permission to kiss, to hug, to feel warmth of our loved ones. Let’s forget for a while all this drama around coronavirus and look at is as a refresh and beauty opportunity for all of us to take a close introspective approach toward our inner lives and relationships in general.
Before you have afraid of death, be afraid that maybe you were dead and still living. Be afraid that tomorrow will come and you don’t have time enough to live your life according to your intentions, and love those who you love back properly, even if it will be against the will of your family system.
Your family system and your ancestors want you to be even happier than they were without sacrificing your soul and the souls of the ones you love.
Think about it next time you run away from a relationship because of fear. Think about why your brother or sister is rebellious, and have relationships with people outside of your circle. Whom he or she is trying to give peace and light through his or her actions?
“You know something is up when your boyfriend or girlfriend bae tells you “we need to talk.” Most of the time it can be a pretty ominous sign that you really screwed up in your relationship. But dating can be full of surprises and sometimes it’s not as bad as it seems! We hope…”
“Love can be hard to receive when we’re not fundamentally convinced of our own loveability. We spend our time seeking out those who can make us suffer in ways that feel familiar. And it becomes natural to assume that a kind lover has missed something – and perhaps then to try to behave in disgusting ways just to make sure they understand we’re really not who they thought we were, and will therefore leave us in painful but somehow psychologically gratifying ways.”
More than often, we reject good people, because they seem “too good” for us and well the explanation for that is quite simple. We are not looking for romantic love, we are looking, somehow, for familiar love.
“Many of us aren’t consciously aware of the ways they may be afraid of love. We may see the real problem in the relationship as being the ways it’s changed. We may list all the issues our partner has, the way he no longer looks at us or she no longer treats us. Or, we may notice our own behavior changing, and chalk that up to no longer feeling the same way toward our partner. However, the real question to ask is why did these dynamics shift in the first place? The answer to that often has to do with fear and fantasy.”
“Relationships is an area where we too often get stuck, unable to make ourselves understood or find the sort of love we need. This is largely due to a myth that loving another human should be something we all naturally know how to do. Far from it; we believe that love is a skill, not just an emotion – and that it’s a skill we all have to learn and carefully rehearse.”