“We sometimes go in and out of relationships and not really know (or understand) what’s getting in the way. What makes some relationships click and others not so much, or why we or someone else walks away or refuses to. It’s important to look at what WE bring to the table.”
Vijayeta Sinh Ph.D.
“Many people worry about the dreaded first date. Dating is a universal stressor. This is because rejection comes with the territory. Fear of being rejected or even the fear of having to reject someone can be overwhelming. Mix in unpleasant past experiences and questionable self-esteem and you have a recipe for dating distress!”
Chamin Ajjan MS, LCSW, ACT
Our current hookup culture and the rise of online dating apps have made emotional unavailability a new normal (Garcia, et. al 2012). That’s why we see so many people feeling entitled to all the benefits of one intimate relationship without actually being in one. Older and younger generations are becoming accustomed to the idea of having another date or rebound at their fingertips, without doing the inner work of healing from past relationships or their self-esteem.
Being around people who don’t know if they like you cause tension and emotional exhaustion. Living in situations of uncertainty generates insecurity and, consequently, emotional instability that will have repercussions on a physical level.
Chose good people to stay with you!
Don’t be afraid to say what are your real intentions and that you love someone. There is nothing much more powerful than sharing your feelings and honor your love. Life is too short to think afterward what if I…
Valentine’s day more than just buy flowers, chocolates or have a fancy dinner is a moment where you can think about the ones you love. Today is the day that we all should stop for a while and ask without fear deep questions to identify what needs to change.
Across 15 minutes, you will understand why some breakups are so painful and hard to understand, but also you will know why and how to deal with it. Love is a journey, an action without unicorns or fairytales.
I wish you happiness and real love, because you are real.
Acknowledge one thing for your entire life: You aren’t too much or too intense for someone who wants the same as you. You will be that for men and women who don’t know who they are or what they want in life.
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