“Love can be hard to receive when we’re not fundamentally convinced of our own loveability. We spend our time seeking out those who can make us suffer in ways that feel familiar. And it becomes natural to assume that a kind lover has missed something – and perhaps then to try to behave in disgusting ways just to make sure they understand we’re really not who they thought we were, and will therefore leave us in painful but somehow psychologically gratifying ways.”
Valentine’s day more than just buy flowers, chocolates or have a fancy dinner is a moment where you can think about the ones you love. Today is the day that we all should stop for a while and ask without fear deep questions to identify what needs to change.
Across 15 minutes, you will understand why some breakups are so painful and hard to understand, but also you will know why and how to deal with it. Love is a journey, an action without unicorns or fairytales.
I wish you happiness and real love, because you are real.
“Relationships is an area where we too often get stuck, unable to make ourselves understood or find the sort of love we need. This is largely due to a myth that loving another human should be something we all naturally know how to do. Far from it; we believe that love is a skill, not just an emotion – and that it’s a skill we all have to learn and carefully rehearse.”
“Everywhere we see and hear people writing and talking that we are living in a life period where everything is faster. But no one tells you how to stop and give attention to your life and relationships.”
“Focus less on creating the perfect social media story and enjoy the time you spend with your partner and friends in real time in the real world. If everything is distilled through a website, you aren’t making the most of the time you spend together.”
But now, here’s the definition of “breadcrumbing”: The act of sending out flirtatious, but non-committal text messages to members of the opposite sex in order to lure a sexual partner without expending much effort.