Although the word toxic is becoming a usual label everywhere and for everyone, we should be careful not only to use it. But also correctly identify what is toxic by running away from it or avoiding altogether in the first place.
Head games or yo-yo relationships are a typical example of toxicity in the dating/intimate universe.
More than talk about toxicity, we should replace the word toxicity for wound, and reflect on how much we can learn from it and use it to build our singular identity.
“You cannot heal the abandonment wounds until you allow yourself to fully experience your authentic feeling responses to the suffering of past abandonments and that which continues to play out in your present-day relationships. Acknowledge what you’ve gone through and what you’re currently experiencing in your relationships and other aspects of your life. Notice what you’re feeling in response to these concerns. And then be sure to breathe softly and deeply while centering your awareness within any feelings that arise.”
We are much less fragile than we’re often led to think. In reality, we are very robust; we need surprisingly little in our lives to get by, and are able to sustain an awful lot of hits and still, somehow, keep going. Focus on this truth; remind yourself of your ability to persevere.
Emotional anorexia means that you are in a state of emotional starvation. Just as irritability and anger happen when your blood glucose levels go down, when you don’t have enough “psychological sugar”, your emotional “blood levels” also decrease.
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