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They dump you because you were too good to be true?

His/her mindset is not positive. Something inside (wounds) is stoping and making them think they don’t deserve you.

There are some individuals when they found what they always wanted (mentally). They think there is one agenda behind the good, or you try to use them. But you know what? Never, ever be less! Never be the less of what you are to accept less of what you deserve/want.

To be in love requires work. Being in a relationship requires discipline. However, you will only be able to accept the goods when you did the inner grow to over challenges your fears.

They dumped you because you were too good? They were terrified! And there is nothing you can do to change them. Don’t try to fix or convince that you were the right fit for them.

You both were a good match, at least on the paper, but your partner without his inner work done can’t accept, cherish and honor you. His/her mind and heart weren’t in the right place.

My life motto is we have to be who we are and never fall into the trap of editing our emotions and personality to fit in somebody’s else life. That will only lead you to resentment and unhappiness. Along the way, the right partner will come into your life and make you feel you are the most precious pearl he/she has, as he/she is for you.

I love to hear from you and write to you, my readers.

Wishing you a wonderful week!


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  1. “My life motto is we have to be who we are and never fall into the trap of editing our emotions and personality to fit in somebody’s else life.” This is really the secret to success. Great advice, Alexandra. BTW, I love the new gravatar.

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    1. Thank you, Rob! 😉

      Unfortunately, some relationships end because he or she thinks they will never be enough for you, even if it’s you what they were looking for their entire life. It’s crazy, I know…
      The gravatar is from a professional photoshoot I did last September, glad you liked 🙂

      Have a good week!


  2. Hey!!
    I love to read about psychology, love and relationships.
    Your blog covers all at the same place…hence my favorite!
    As you recommended to read “Attached” I read the same my Dr. Amir and after solving the test my highest score went for Avoidant Attachment and the second highest was Secure attachment.

    Well…have a great week..

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    1. Hello April,

      I will leave here a couple of questions for you to think about:

      1. Who are you?
      2. What do you want?
      3. What means for you intimacy?
      4. How long your relationships last?
      5. Do you like closeness?
      6. Do you think your partner or perspective partner has an agenda behind his good intentions?
      7. Do you find yourself looking for signs in your partner to justify it’s time to break up?
      8. Do you feel trapped in one relationship after the honeymoon period?
      9. How can you describe your childhood?
      10. How do you feel inside when you are in a relationship?

      Answer all these questions just for you, and if you feel the need to improve yourself, seek professional help.
      To be in one intimate relationship requires skills and tools, require inner growth and improvement. You can say on the paper you want somebody, and they match all your boxes, but if you don’t allow your inner self to grow, you will be terrified, and you will left.

      I hope this helps you.

      Have a good day 🙂

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